Exactly what the title says. Ive only had sex 3 times and i cant stay hard during it. Im aroused, but as soon as the condoms go on, i cant maintain an erection and idk what to do. I was a virgin up until recently so im thinking it might be nerves, but i honestly dont feel nervous while doing it
Often times it can be porn induced erectile disfunction. If you’re able to masturbate fully with no problems to porn, but not finish with a partner, it’s 99% of the time due to a porn addiction or sexual anxiety.
My advice for someone in your situation that is new to sex, if you’re comfortable enough with someone, masturbate only with them. Don’t have sex. If it’s a new partner, you can tell them you’re waiting to have sex, whatever the excuse is doesn’t matter. Or maybe say you forgot the condom but you still want to finish, etc.
I found that when I masterbated with my partner watching me, my arousal shot up and my anxiety lessened.
Hope this helps, don’t beat yourself up. It’s more normal than you think
I think in your case it’s nerves, since you don’t have much experience. My first experience was the same and it’s only after a while when I got comfortable with my gf at the time that things worked normally. The mental exercises on here (inner critic, spectatoring), should help. It’s all in your head! Talking to your gf might help take the pressure off too and you can focus on things besides penetrative sex