Actually I am watching porn more to test my erection capabilities
I put up a timer. And queue up some porn and see how quickly I can get hard. I also use it to pre-game before sex with my spouse. He’s supportive of it.
As I’ve got older, I definitely use porn more to relieve stress as opposed to because I’m spontaneously horney, particularly if I wake up in the night. I’d rather have the comfort and kindness of a partner to snuggle but while I’m single and that’s not an option, I do generally feel good after watching porn. I’m trying to go with meditation instead but often it doesn’t work for me when there’s too much on my mind.
Porn has never been a problem for me. But emotional intimacy is, and porn is the perfect way to feel self soothe when I feel lonely, hopeless, sad. I need to address one issue in order to fix the other.
Working from home porn has become more a part of my daily routine, it’s easier to watch porn for a quick release than it is to have sex with my girlfriend, but I think this feeling has negatively impacted our sex life
Im starting to realize porn is a self soothe due to having partner intimacy problems
That I actually don’t use porn as much as I used to. The fantasy topic in previous chapters really helped me and that’s where I am now. Still have a negative connotation towards porn and would like it to be seen as something positive and rewriting the past where I used it extremely where it was a massive habit and became something I resented. So mostly positive from this exercise and feel happy noticing I’ve grown.
Watching porn is very much a habit for me, I should think more carefully before I open it up each time
Porn was habitual for me, but I’m working on breaking that habit and only watching porn when I want to rather than to help me get off for a quick stress-relief wank. Focusing more on meditation and mindfulness for stress management.
Porn is actually not an issue for me at all. I rarely to never watch it at this point in my life. But I am working hard at every part of this program so as to better understand the psychology of why I suffer from anxiety in this area
I don’t think porn is a problem for me, I don’t use it that much. But I think when I did I felt guilty and like it was affecting me but really it’s not so I need to understand the occasional time I do it that it’s fine
I don’t need porn to cope. It is a hindrance for me
It’s ok to watch porn, but I should consider what is motivating me to reach for it.
I recently listened to a podcast where Mia Kalifa was saying how being in the porn industry has caused her so much pain and she wished that all the porn industries took down her videos. After that any time I looked at porn I felt a bit disgusting so I do not watch porn anymore.
I think it’s a habit and I’m in a routine - if I go to bed feeling stressed I immediately reach for porn. But I should consider what is making me go to porn and whether there is something else I can do that might de-stress me
it often is compulsive and not adding to my life. even if it isn’t the only factor with ED it is often just cope that could be dealt with in another more positive / meditative way.
I learned there are multiple root cause triggers to watching porn and to watch them and identify why and if the open is making me feel better then it’s ok and into stop and think about why I want to watch it
It’s definitely compulsive/ automatic for me when I’m stressed and horny. Like hitting the McD’s drive through when I haven’t ate. I don’t think about it, I just go for what feels good. Thinking I have to set up with options before I get to that state so I have choice moving forward