Like others I definitely use porn for procrastination and also there’s a convenience to it. It’s available when I’m horny and decide I want a quick release rather than delaying gratification, waiting for my partner, or being productive in some other way.
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I would like to abstain in order to have more realistic and healthier ideas about sex as well as have more fulfilling sex with real.life women instead of relying on porn for sexual pleasure
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I’m finding that porn use feels compulsive, and whenever I try and stop for an extended period of time, I get a feeling of gratification from NOT indulging in the quick dopamine hit. I also realize I’ve conditioned myself to treat it like a little bit of a reward. For instance, “oh I got a lot of work done today, now I can go home and …”.
I would definitely like to have a healthier relationship with it, as my partner and I like to watch it together, but it feels like I’m not as in control of my porn habits as I would like to be.
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When I was single I would use porn as a self soothing device; if I was stressed, lonely or upset I would watch it. With a partner now I still do that a little, but it’s evolved to be slightly worse… if I argue with my partner (causing stress) I might watch porn and deliberately look for someone is looks nothing like my partner or go for something more extreme to why I used to engage in. I’m seeing this as a sign to rein it in a little bit. It’s possible to have a healthy relationship with porn and I’m going to cultivate that healthy relationship
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Don’t really watch much porn but some interesting and useful facts.
I have sexualising anxiety issues and have learned that watching porn increases that anxiety.
I use porn and masturbation to de stress myself and losing pleasure in partnered sex
I have situational anxiety when it comes to sex. For so long I’ve relied on porn and masturbation for sexual pleasure that when faced with having sex with a real woman I’m not sure what to do and feel inadequate and afraid she won’t enjoy sex with me and eventually will leave me for someone better.
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Hmm. I’ve watched porn since I was a teenager. I grew up religious, always had to hide it…even when I first got married. And masturbating . Now we are super open and have lots of fun, but I think there is something about having watched and came to that much porn over the years that my body doesn’t want to respond the same way to a woman.
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I literally watch porn for entertainment without any intent of masturbation or anything like that and can watch it for hours and not get hard or any more aroused. I just like watching it just like some people watch Facebook reels or a TV show
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I am uncomfortable with the amount of porn I consume. It is largely self soothing behavior
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I have cut back and will likely cut back some more
I consume too much porn in the sense I have not enough willpower to stop myself when a horny thought goes by. I need to find a healthy balance, where it can be in my life but I don’t rely on it.
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I get what you mean, it’s like doom scrolling but worse.
I definitely watch porn to self soothe, to take a time out from life, to forget that I have work/family/relationship and can just be on my own in an enjoyable exciting way
My thing is Instagram reels. I tell myself it’s okay cuz it’s not porn. But I think the 30 seconds of many many reels was rewiring my brain to need more variety and to quickly abandon situations
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I wouldn’t really say I have an addiction problem, but I do sometimes use porn when I am feeling anxious or stressed. In those cases, it covers up the main issue and only makes me feel better for a short while. 15 minutes later, all my problems are still there. A new goal for me in these situations is to try to tackle the life problems head on, not avoid them.
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I would be doomscrolling on Instagram and see a sexy reel or pic and get a sudden urge to watch porn. I want to try to contain that urge especially when it isn’t the time or place to have a wank
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Watching porn became more habit than necessity as my wife and my frequency declined. It was almost just easier to watch than go through the hassle of being rejected. (Our sex drives are far different) I’d like to focus on a greater connection with her and reignite our connection while relying far less on Porn. Perhaps a tall order but this is my commitment.
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Porn in itself isn’t a bad thing. More so the reasons why I would and sometimes still resort to porn to release. Sometimes stress, can’t sleep, some emotions I am not facing/processing.
Trying to watch porn less frequently and over the last 5+ years, watching amateur porn instead as it feels closer to the real thing. Learning to be better at regulating my emotions so I don’t resort to porn when I’m feeling an emotion I’m not comfortable with