When did things change? Did anything here get you thinking?
I first discovered the mystery of genital ejaculation at age 12, when I masturbated to climax and discovered an actual discharge. I remember masturbating to a vague experience of “feeling good” even before I started ejaculating. The fantasies that prompted masturbation were mostly around bodily functions other than sex: imaginations about defecation and other excretory functions in girls. I think that’s what planted in my head the idea that masturbation and ejaculation – and, by association, sex itself – were “unclean” and taboo.
I think I always kept my porn use a secret and that made it feel a bit taboo. Then, after being married for so long I began using it as a way to get turned on. My partner and I would do pretty much the same thing every time we had sex. But for a long time I didn’t share my porn use with my partner so I became anxious and secretive about it. This is when my ED started. But I associated my ED with porn not my attitude about it. Mojo is helping me fix this.
Recently, with a girl I’m tryna date, we were talking about what porn we watched and it made me feel great because when I told her what porn I am into (mostly sloppy blowjobs 
) she was very considerate and even hyped me up to go watch some no judging, made me feel great and heard (It really boosted my confidence since we have phone sex almost every night now, which is something I never thought I would do) being open and as freaky as I want with her makes me feel very very good
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I think watching porn is fun and great but immediately after climaxing I start to regret it, I hope that this will change over time after realising porn is nothing to be ashamed of
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I like watching porn and it is a big turn on for me. My only worry is that I find it hard to get an erection and masturbate without it. I will try using erotic stories to broaden my perceptions.
I’ve often been very ashamed of my main sexual fantasy and have tried quitting using porn for it but always ended up returning. I’m less ashamed now, though I’m still concerned that, since my fantasy is impossible to enact in the real world, that using it in porn has gotten me used to a sexual turn-on that I can’t bring into the bedroom.
I’ve felt shame for a long time! I think a big reason is because for a long time I only focused on porn with women with large breasts, and when my ex-girlfriend and I talked about porn, she became self-conscious because she felt like she couldn’t fulfill my fantasies. I felt shame for her feeling badly, which also isn’t necessarily my fault to begin with. But this module was really insightful— it said that rather than trying to rid myself of a fantasy, it’s easier to explore and add to your fantasies. Then the variation leads to less anxiety about fixation, etc. so I’m gonna try to diversify and (hopefully) feel better about my porn usage!
That I should be open to exploring new types of porn as I am to exploring new types of people
My attitude towards porn has been that it is bad to watch but I watch it anyway for self pleasure. I would like to have a better control of it and to use it with my partner instead of hiding it for myself.
Stopping the use of porn out of choice before entering a relationship has affected my view of sex and myself, I haven’t felt any desire to use it again but I fear there may be adverse shame and negative effects from prolonged use
I did feel shame from using porn, as my ex was completely against it. I would still use it and I think I created a bad stigma in my head. Now I’m seeing that porn can and is normal.
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There was definitely a long period of my life that I viewed porn as a negative influence in the world. But when I realized that my relationship toward sex has always been surrounded by feelings of shame and being wrong from religious ideals, I have opened up to sex positivity. I want to view the consensual sharing of intimate pleasure as a win win. And I’m working toward cultivating that view.
I used to be so convinced that my sex problems were Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED), and I engaged in “No fap” for several months. The reset felt kind of nice but it did not fix the underlying issues. I’m glad to know that there is no evidence suggesting porn causes sexual Dysfunction, even if you have a psychological issue concerning body image or something.