Would like to avoid consumption so that idea of a real partner excites me so much more than unrealistic fantasies created by watching porn
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I want to stop using porn when I’m down. Or when I feel lonely. I want to build my confidence with real women.
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i generally feel better the less porn i watch, but would want to get to a place where i feel comfortable enjoying it occasionally
When you watch porn and mastubate daily and even multiple times a day, so that you can get a high from it, it really does feel like addiction. Like taking drugs. It is hard to break and you keep thinking you are in control, but you have in reality lost control. It has also desensitized my body, possibly through over stimulation. Whether I am on my own or with a partner, I want my sexual enjoyment to go back to feeling natural. Not having to rely on any external stimulus for enjoyment. I believe that will make sex better with my partner as well.
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Porn has desensitized me and I don’t want to consume it anymore
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I find it so easy to say ‘‘porn is not real life’’ but at the same time I feel that it influences how I see sex at a deep level out of my control and that it fosters anxiety. For exemple, about my size.
Porn is making me feel really lonely, I don’t have any sexual partner so I resort to porn to get that bit of sexual proximity. It just makes me feel more lonely and frustrated.
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I used to have a healthier sex life, but in the absence of that I feel like I’m just settling for porn instead of “getting out there”
I learned that I was comparing myself to what I saw on porn.
I was trying to be like that.
The women always were big O or squishy. Now its a turkey base that’s funny.
I had unrealistic expectations in the bedroom base off it. I was to much inside my head not enjoying the moment.
I had some unrealistic endurance realizations. I still think 2-8 min is short but I do want to step away from porn. Its become a crutch rather than enjoyment. It will be missed.
I feel like as of late, my relationship with porn has been pretty healthy. It’s like watching TV but it’s sex. It doesn’t change how I fundamentally interact with, or think about the real world. It’s like having an ice cream cone. It’s nice, but I’m not going to eat three ice cream cones a day.
I don’t want to use it as a crutch, or a way to feel better.
I abused it and I realize that. I want to change and porn isn’t helping that mission. Gonna have to let it go but maybe eventually come back to it if I feel like i can walk without a crutch.
I had already come to conclusion that porn has desensitised my sex drive when it came to real-life arousal. This became more apparent after the reality of a non-functioning sex organ had become my normal. I’ve not considered total abstinence before because without porn-inspired ejaculation, there would be no ejaculations. I will continue to work on my physical health side, and lower my porn use.
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After paying attention to my triggers I found that most of my porn consumption is driven by insecurity. I am most tempted to look at it when I am worried if I’m big enough, can last long enough, etc.
There is so much discussion about the unrealistic depictions of women but it can make men feel equally inadequate.
You can read the countless studies and research that prove you’re normal, but when every porn performer, Instagram/twitter model, or OF guy you see has an above-average dick, it’s so hard to trust the data and feel okay about yourself.
It’s been 35 days since I last indulged in porn and I really do feel better. It’s still a temptation sometimes but I know it won’t make me feel better.
Even before using mojo I had decided to switch from watching porn to reading sex stories this a) stopped me scrolling through video after video b) allowed me to imagine myself and my partner in the scenarios I was reading.
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I stay up late which effects me next day because I lose sleep. Also I am hornier when I abstain for long time so not good for me. I want to quit altogether
The self soothing tendency. Porn just isn’t a thing for me when I’m connected with someone. Hearing the research that it doesn’t activate the same craving impulses in the brain as drugs is also reassuring. A lot of the worry for me was driven by a fear of it becoming addictive. I still have ethical concerns because porn is inherently linked with sex trafficking. I also feel shame for watching it if I’m disconnected from someone I’m getting to know, because it feels disloyal. I wish it wasn’t a thing to be honest, but I’d like my relationship to porn to become much healthier; especially as shame around porn can effect erections with a partner!!
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I do use porn and wanking to destress, and even joined a swingers site but seems like this maybe more harm than good.
I do use porn honestly to self soothe especially when I am stressed. I also use porn as a way to have fun; I have noticed that I don’t have erection issues when I watch porn, yet when I’ve had sex a number of times it’s not worked out well