Cutting it out as I feel I need more to get an erection
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Situational anxiety makes so much sense
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I think that for me, it’s less about the porn itself and more about the entire experience. Constant visual stimulation along with a tight masterbation grip makes vaginal sex seem less exciting and feel less good causing issues.
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I feel like being used to the visual stimulation has become a part of the problem I have with partners
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I use a porn site which is almost like Tik Tok for porn. I go through hundreds of short clips to look for good ones. Not a good way to be.
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I stoped porn watchin in sept 2024, its not jan 2025. ive notices better arrousal, some night time erections being back, spontaneus erections even when just walking in the beach. Im still not back to “normal”, but i think porn is not good for too long and its dangerous in the amounts it is right now for free on the internet for new kids.
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You can’t get nervous watching porn but you can when being intimate with someone. It makes porn safer.
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Focusing on sensation rather than bombarding your visual senses is the way out.
I used to binge watch video after video, fast forward to different parts in the video to see every position without busting, edging myself onto the next video in the suggested videos on the page compulsively.
Now I commit to watching 1 video of 20-40 minutes all the way through and not fast forwarding, and allowing myself to cum with that one video.
Moreover, I use lube now and more importantly a flesh light to focus more on the different sensations, even integrating pelvic thrusting to get used to this than relying on passive hand movements. The porn is now a back seat to focusing on the sensations (and relying less on my hand and tight grip going fast).
Also, I fins myself gravitating more to POV porn and otherwise using it as an aid to recall actual sexy moments I’ve been in. It’s more a tool, and making it more about sensations and recalling your own experiences of partnered sex. That’s how I’m resolving my issues.
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Porn is interesting when shared viewing with your partner. But watching it alone is not as fun, and can be a problem.
Circuits that fire together, wire together. If the lights are out, I will struggle with getting fully aroused and hard. I think it’s because the visual stimulation of watching porn has created an arousal superhighway circuit in my brain. Couple that with the practice of masterbating once turned on by porn and rushing to orgasm to keep your habit a secret I think is a potent recipe for ED and PE. Now it’s like I am the only one that can get me erect through touch. Addicted? Nah. But I think porn isn’t doing me favors. As a result, I’ve gone cold turkey. Hoping to rewire those arousal circuits.
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the guilt afterwards often makes the whole thing seem not fun and pointless - its over too quickly and feels so hedonistic
Porn is more fantasy, and certain sex positions are just for the viewers plessure, I’m guessing they won’t work in real life. I worry a partner might think “yeah he’s got that from porn”.
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Didn’t realise average sex session only last 2-8 minutes!
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My biggest problem is Im so used to porn, my head wanders everywhere while watching
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I used to watch porn on the “old school” websites, which was fine. Very healthy habits. Then maybe last year I changed to twitter -short clips, hundreds at a time- this had a huge effect on me. There was no intention, it was like mindlessly scrolling on Reels/Tiktok. It’s been a week of stopping cold-turkey and already things are improving. Maybe in a month I will try website porn again, but never twitter or similar apps.
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Agree 100%. It wasn’t a problem until twitter and Reddit became involved. Congrats on a week
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Damn, same here. I hadn’t realised that could be a factor. Maybe it’s related to the whole destroyed attention span thing happening with TikTok and the like
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Pornis a stress reliever, but it is at a point that it is hard to go more than a day without it. I do have a lot of stress, but I need to find other ways to deal with it than just porn. I don’t crave porn, it is just easily accessible.
I thought porn was causing my erection issues, but using mojo, I realized I’d lost my mind muscle connection to my pelvic floor. I was able to get hard and stay hard after a couple of weeks of practice
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Porn is a great distraction from the daily grind of constantly trying to drive numbers and production. It allows me to zone out for 10 to 20 minutes and forget about everything else going on around me, but it has led two problems like getting hard without it
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