What do you want to change about your porn use? (Part 2)

I find myself wanting sex with my wife, but then my anxiety over getting and staying hard stops me from initiating sex. The next day I’m frustrated and I think I opt for porn as a way of reliving my frustration, but also ‘testing’ if I can get and stay hard. I actually find that it’s more difficult and my erection isn’t as strong as it could be when I am lying in bed next to my wife. It’s weird and it’s a habit I desperately want to break.

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I’m 21 years of age and recently I haven’t been able to keep an erection with my girlfriend either tho I’m sexually attracted to her but when I can’t get it up she then gets upset thinking that she’s doing something wrong then I have to tell her and reassure her she’s not I’d really like to be able to stop this as it’s a touchy subject with me and her and I don’t want it to be I’d like to be able to talk about sex with her and not have that self doubt that I’m not going to keep and and then go downhill

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i lost the love of my life over porn and I have lost my youth to it. It’s good to see a different perspective of it and I want to use this platform as a way to have a better relationship with porn.

I often use porn and masturbation in two ways: (1) as just something to do during the day, usually fighting boredom, or (2) right before bed as a way to delay going to sleep. At night, I find myself scrolling for 30 minutes, an hour, or even more, way past my bedtime, not wanting to cum until I have found the perfect video and have been edging for long enough. My quality of sleep is affected from staring at a screen and cutting into my sleep hours.

I see it as a problem yes. I watch to relieve stress, i think there are healthier ways to do that (though in a extra stressful time in my life right now). And when i watch porn, i keep looking for the perfect video to cum to. And i think this is making it so i need very sexy visuals to get hard… Which is not good for my sexlife

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I think I use it too much. And with specific fantasies that are not realistic in daily life.

I think I used porn as a coping mechanism for being bored and living on a farm not being able to go express my sexuality.

I use it to deal with daily stress. And I feel like I get to make the decision of what turns me on.

I to am 25 and i had/have the same problem. Same exact problem, my girlfriend is so sexy snd has the perfect ratio of body snd face. But my porn addiction has desensitized me that i would rather masterbate and make myself cum because of all the kinks and different type of females porn has by the touch. I chose to stop watching porn and focus on her and only her

Porn has ruined my sex life with my girlfriend. I had became so obsessed with the idea exploring my imagination and fantasize about other women. I would masterbate and search for new porn every night. It completely detached myself from what real sex was really like that my expectations of sex, was out of my girlfriends imagination of sex. It has brought shame and guilt to me as the most perfect and beautiful girl was in my bed only seeking to have sex with me. I owe her the world, and better sex. I have now been 2 and a half months free from porn addiction. Quit cold turkey, and what gave me the strength to quit cold turkey and never look back to porn was that this girl has been with me for 4 years. She has been with me from when i had no ambition no dreams, to the struggles of living paycheck to paycheck. She was there when i didnt have $10 to my name. She has always been there with me. And pornography to me was a selfish and unloyal thing to do. Although i was not physically cheating on her with other women, it felt like i was when i would masterbate to porn.

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Yes, I think because I use it more compulsively to alleviate stress and to focus too much on a particular fetish.

I’d like to just take a break for a while and replace stress relief through exercise and meditation.

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I was in a marriage (16 years) that was without sex for probably 5+ years. Not just no sex, but no hugs from my wife or any real affection, despite me being affectionate towards her. I think I watched porn rather than embarking on an extra-marital affair (despite everything, I was never going to do that). So, I guess it was to relieve depression and obtain some sexual satisfaction.
Three months ago, I left my wife, in part because I realised I wanted somebody else; I wasn’t going to go through the rest of my life with no love.
Now, I am in an unbelievably good, dream-come-true, relationship. I’ve absolutely realised what was missing in my life. I’ve no desire at all now to watch porn, unless it’s something that my new partner and I do together, but I’ll not be suggesting it.

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I worked long hours for the ambulance service and my wife would be more or less asleep when I returned from work. When on my recovery days, she’d be at work and I’d watch some porn and have a wank. It’d be a nice release, but I wasn’t feeling the urge on the evening when my wife was back. It more or less killed our intimate times. Turns out, rather than talking to me about her needs (and mine with her) she turned to an old work colleague and had an affair. It’s broke my heart and I don’t blame porn as such, but I blame myself. I just struggle sometimes with maintaining my erection because my mind wanders to the other man. We’re working through it though and the sex is better than ever. I’m just sorry it took an affair to reignite our relationship

I think that I still feel guilty after watching it which is why I want to stop completely. I also think I could soothe myself in other ways.

I want to masturbate to mind instead of porn. Only when aroused instead of stressed/bored

I just don’t want to watch porn no more. I want to go back to my imaginations good work.

I want to different ways to cope with my emotional upheavals than watching porn. I want to keep porn watching to be a rare thing and with healthy kinks.

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I want to rely less on porn for escapism and stress release. I want it to be something exciting and fun that I can use to augment masturbation that I won’t feel guilty of afterward. I don’t want it to be a rush to the finish line, or need to scroll endlessly for the “perfect” video.

I use porn mainly as a form of stress relief. I mainly used it before work or before social gatherings, and when i get stressed during free time. Using porn too much for me, looks like being late and inattentive at social gatherings. It’s a problem for me, because it drives a wedge between me and the people i want to be closer with and leads me to isolating myself more and more.

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I have to picture myself doing what I like to watch in porn to my partner during sex in order to stay hard