What do you want to change about your porn use? (Part 2)

[magic-violet-toad]

I have hocd and I use porn to validate my sexuality as a compulsion

[popular-gold-tarsier]

The shame of porn is certainly lessening in me, but it’s always been about feeling like someone wants to do something sexual for me when that has always been lacking. I want to use it to learn about my sexuality and I’ve been incorporating erotic stories because I am turned on by aurally

[open-bronze-deer]

The time porn to me had been an issue was when I would prefer to use it instead of being intimate with my own partner. I believe at this time was to be a stress relief more than anything else.

[productive-turquoise-skunk]

I realized I mainly use porn because it feels like sex with my partner isn’t an option. I have a lot of negative feelings associated with not feeling like my partner desires me, and porn helps me soothe it. It also doesn’t help that I like a very specific thing and my partner isn’t in to it. I definitely have a complex relationship with it and setting goals will help a lot I think

[potential-yellow-anglerfish]

I definitely use porn to combat boredom, anger and when I’m supposed to be doing something else. I’ll rethink that and try to come up with something else that could work.

[tough-jade-caterpillar]

I probably watch it too often and find it’s become boring. I need some effort to continue and probably started losing my erection or finding it difficult to get it up here.
Sometimes I do it first thing in the morning or in the afternoon. I’m definitely using it for task avoidance and so it is impacting my life. I need other ways to relax and to re-engage with other parts of my life. I sometimes see it as practice but as above, erection difficulties and delayed ejaculation aren’t signs of a successful strategy. I need to use it much less often. I get that it’s nothing to feel guilty about but need to be doing it much less.

[urgent-purple-ox]

It can be hard quitting it cold turkey, try scheduling it a couple of times a week and start either decreasing the frequency or changing to other types of content to get you off. For me, I like to read erotic stories of whatever fantasies I like, the good thing about erotic stories vs porn is that it leaves it to your imagination which helped me a lot as my issue was trying to get the 100% perfect look woman of my dreams… the reality is no one is perfect and there is always something about anyone that will take their perfection away. I hope my message helps and wish you the best!

[functional-coffee-tyrannosaurus]

This year I’ve had a detox from porn so 6 months without it. I think no porn helps with self esteem and relationships. I’ve never really understood why I was into my particular category (cuckold) but it doesn’t seem healthy

[cautious-black-sturgeon]

I will aim to establish an alternative boredom breaker than relying on porn.

[elated-coral-spoonbill]

I use porn to overcome boredom or to relieve stress.

I must find other ways to overcome boredom or relieve stress, so that I’m not always turning to porn.

[industrial-beige-alligator]

I use pirn as anxiety and stress relief

[linear-emerald-centipede]

I use porn in the morning as stress relief

[jolly-aqua-zebra]

I found if I cum after watching porn, it’s near impossible for me to get it up later that day if there is a sexual encounter. Also think I cope with frustration and boredom by using porn.
It’s different for everyone, but replacing “I want to watch porn” in my head with “I want to have sex” has actually helped me quit porn and helped with my sex drive. Different for everybody though

[sympathetic-ivory-barnacle]

I rely on porn as a way to relieve stress, boredom, and the occasional morning wood before getting ready for the day. I need to find alternatives to take care of the boredom and stress concerns in my life.

[concerned-rose-wolf]

I don’t like using porn because it lowers my drive in my sex life. Note having done it doesn’t make it easy to happen after

[inherent-violet-duck]

I dont want to use porn anymore, because it has a negative impact on my sexlife with a real woman. I only want to masturbate on my memorys in my head

[interim-moccasin-moth]

I grew up really into porn and masturbation. As I’ve gotten older (late 30’s) that has lessened. Now especially being in a relationship where I want to have sex, I rarely masturbate or watch porn. Even before a relationship I only masturbated 2-3 times a week. I feel like anytime I masturbate I’m just killing my own chance at later maintaining an erection with her so I try to avoid it.

[fancy-black-marmot]

I love porn. There’s so much of everything out there and seeing something new makes things exciting. I love sharing with anyone who wants. It’s in evenings mostly though throughout the day I might scroll. Not because I’m bored but because I would so much rather be somewhere else having sex. Porn is fun and clearly a fantasy. Few men are that big or can last hours and there’s no expectations from sex due to porn for myself. I don’t believe that porn is related to the disconnect I feel. If anything I feel much more in the moment when I watch porn and would like to know how I can apply that to my regular sex life. To stay in the moment and not pull myself away. It sounds really stupid but I never had the experience of putting on porn and just jacking off with friends. That would be something new and exciting.

[super-gold-hedgehog]

I find porn is like junk food. It gets you there quickly, but without the connection and full sensory experience usually involved in sex. It’s stands in for a fantasy - make porn with your mind, and you’ll have a skill that actually connects you with yourself

[wise-purple-planarian]

I have a rather compulsive mind and find it hard to stop watching porn after I get back into it so I try to avoid it.