What did you learn about your inner critic's tactics?

Nah activities did though

Helps to think things through and write them down. Helped me come with a realisation I hadn’t had before

Never really thought about what my inner critique was trying to do until I was torn to write it down. It’s a good exercise.

It helped process some feelings and understand what happened

It’s putting the negative at the forefront making me worry - even though I had amazing sex with my partner recently, so it’s only drawing on the occasional

Writing things down definitely helped and helped me understand what happens moment to moment

It helps me identify the cycle so that I can begin to break it.

Helps to write it down

Actually laying it all out in front of me makes me recognise what I can work on. This really helped

That my inner critic is tied to my self worth. If I decouple these two then I will likely feel less pressure to perform.

I’ve had so many times where I couldn’t get it up from anxiety, but also so many times where I was comfortable and did have great sex. My inner critic seems to only focus on the bad times.

Yeah, good to put it down to words in more detail. I know I’m worth it, and while many times I can perform well, this inner critic is always floating around ready to take over.

It’s an inevitable asshole that wants to drive home the point of disappointment being the only outcome

I finally identified my inner critics voice. He starts as an anxious feeling which then leads to thoughts of self doubt. These thoughts are the words of my inner critic. Huge breakthrough for me getting to the root of things.

Yes it really did help to articulate the process I go through when I think about the possibility of having sex.

Yes writing things down helps to identify the issue, which is a start, but I still don’t feel close to a solution

It wasn’t learnt, it was always there but this exercise was great to clearly outline specific reasonings and beliefs making it much more clearer and gave me clarity.

Good exercise but I need a solution :folded_hands:

My inner critic is creating a cycle of anxiety that’s preventing me from making romantic connections as easily as I would like.

I learned that my inner critic is there just to focus on only me, and protect me from my fears and anxieties. When I focus on connection and not on performance, the inner critics volume will be dampened, although maybe not all together silenced, which is okay. That’s why there is still work left to do.