Thought I would come on here as I have struggled with ED since I was 20 (now 30).
I think something that has worked for me was firstly therapy. Realising that a lot of my erection issues weee related to a fear of rejection that if I didn’t “perform” and “fuck well enough” I would be abandoned. Had to out in some hard yards.
Journaling my inner critic thoughts has been really helpful and I was so skeptical that it would work but I now don’t feel as controlled by them. And realise that yes occasionally I won’t get an erection but to not feel embarrassed and move on.
Now in a happy relationship and mostly the ED is gone. Breathing exercises, journaling and realising the root cause of my erection issues has helped. Now having regular and happy sex life
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Nice work man!!
Me too similar.
In a great relationship with a super woman!
My PED is still somewhat present, as is my deathgrip. However was able go have sex for 20 min last night where I came this close to finishing. Then we did it again this morning for 10-15 min…
I’ve found that if I can get her off a couple times with my tongue or my fingers before we have sex, the pressure to get her off with my dick is off… I’ve gotten pretty good with both. She’s also one of the high percentage of women that usually don’t cum from penetration alone. She usually needs something on her clit. My finger, her fingers or a toy. I introduced toys to the mix and it’s really paid off.
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Congrats man! Can you explain more about journaling your inner critic? Do you just write down the thoughts? Do you counter them in your journal? Read it back? How often? Thanks!
Yes, most women won’t climax from penetration alone no matter what we have heard. I also do the same as far as making her climax with my hands or tongue then having penetrative sex.
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How long did it take you? Im 6 months in and have had no wins or changes
It’s all perspective my friend. It might take you longer to find your root cause. Maybe you have different problems. I would keep at it. I am 2 months in and had great results of my own. The inner critic work helped a lot. I am not done yet at all. I am still working through my issues.
When you say you journal your thoughts, I feel I have the exact same as you, what were you writing down ? The exact thought but then do you answer it? Aha I just don’t understand journalling