I’ve been using Mojo for more than 2 months now. I’ve a PE problem since I have a sexual life and i don’t have a girlfriend for 15 years now (i’m 38). Because of that, my only way of satisfaction is masturbation. I used to use porn as a visual stimuli and i got used to it very much. I didn’t think i had a porn addiction, i only masturbated 2-4 times a week and used porn to it. I started using Mojo when I had a chance to be with a woman and i failed 5 times in a row (and she is now gone). I thought I have a physical problem, but after started using the app, i realized that it has to be just a mental state that i need to get out of. Everything worked well until i get to exercises that porn, or any other stimuli was not allowed (penis root masturbation, direct masturbation, sensation focus, wax and wayne, etc…) I didn’t have any results from them but i started feeling again that I may have some physical problem. I decided to leave porn and try to focus on fantasies. First of all, i realized that my libido basically disappeared. I didn’t feel the need of it despite the fact that i have a morning wood every day. I went a bit pushy on it and it worked 2 times out of 5, but the rest was a failure. I arrived to a point where things got worse then in the begining. If it’s not morning wood, i ejuaculate before i fully get hard. If i stop masturbating because i dont want to cum, the erection also goes away. I’m doing meditation twice a day, trying to focus on the mental part, but i’m also feeling worse and worse because of no results. I don’t want to go back to porn becausr i think it’s one pf the culprit for my state, but i cannot do most of the exercises because i cannot get hard without cuming. Anyone else has the same problem? Any advices?
It sounds as though you are trying so hard, it feels as though the issues are seeming more difficult. Sometimes this can happen when we are trying to do things differently and concentrating on certain issues. Watching porn can become an easy way to get aroused visually and we can forget our bodies, skin and our own thoughts. When this happens it often means we have to retrain our body to feel arousal. It might be helpful to go back to very basic touching of your body but do not touch your penis. Allowing things to slow down, your breath to slow down, thoughts - you can use oil if it helps. Build up some erotic thoughts - just do 5 mins, do not try to masturbate - almost as though you are teasing yourself. Do this for 1 week. Then when you begin to touch your penis, set the timer for only 5 mins, again do not let yourself cum, use your erotic thoughts. Try and stay relaxed, notice negative thoughts, try and replace them with relaxed enjoyable thoughts. I think this will help build up your sexual energy and you wont be counting the failures. When you are feeling better about your arousal you can slowly add in new exercises - take it slowly - it will get better. Hope this makes sense. : )