Straight male. Discovered I was into prostate play a few years ago. Tried to introduce it in my last relationship but my partner wasn’t into it. I have a pegging fantasy but it brings me great shame thinking of trying to introduce it to partnered sex. I frequently masturbate w prostate play and it brings me great sexual satisfaction to the point where I struggle to have good orgasms without it. I just feel like I won’t ever find a partner who I could explore it with and it leaves me feeling broken and shameful.
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I feel the same way. How do you reveal what turns you on with the fear that it will turn her off? I feel like our sex life could be so much more fulfilling if I could share my desires knowing that I could totally turn her off because of her beliefs and upbringing. I love my wife and want to have an amazing sexual relationship with her, but I don’t think she is ready to accept the sexual desires I need. The potential judgement I face holds me back from exposing the needs and desires I have sexually in our relationship. How can you overcome these issues? The thought of expressing any of this is terrifying! Any suggestions?
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Maybe offering anal play to sour partner first is a good way to do it.
My ex girlfriend introduced me to it. Though we started very slowly with normal massages, then intense full body massages, until I was at a point where doing anal play was just the natural next step in the arousal curve
Definitely talk to your partner about your desires. Be vocal during intimacy about what you like and what you don’t. Try playing a game (you can get dice or a spinner) where you pick random body parts and different ways to stimulate each other, and then discuss afterwards what you liked, what you didn’t and maybe what surprised you the most.
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I’d like some advice on this one too. When my wife and I were dating, at the time neither one of us was into anal sex, we only dabbled with grazing the ass using fingers and a little bit of rimming. Now at 45 and me suffering from ED I have been looking for different ways to keep me hard and very curious about prostate play. I’ve practiced on myself using the thin Molto vibrator - this thing feels amazing! Not sure how to whip it out to get the wife to use it on me though. And I want to now explore her ass too but when I bring it up she says we didn’t do this when dating so why the change of heart now? She liked the tried and true and I want more variety to keep it fun with her. What would be the best way to get her to be game for this?