Heya everyone, ok I know this might seem silly to celebrate but I was with my girlfriend again and was able to perform for a minute or two, I know it’s very short and far from the end goal but still wanted to note the small success. We actually stopped more because of her this time than me because she smelt leftover blood from her period and she got self concious.
I did want to mention some things that helped this time as it might help others too, so for one we did a kinda “netflix and chill” thing and while yes it was tough to stop focusing on the prospective of sex it offered at least a slight distraction, so much so that even while getting a blowjob at times I could lessen my anxiety by watching the movie instead (sounds funny but worked).
As well as this a big problem of mine is penetrative sex and it really helped for her to put the condom on and her to start riding and stick it in by herself, this lessens some sort of failure anxiety and doesn’t leave you with those 15-30 secs being in your own negative thoughts while putting the condom on.
Hope this helps others too, I know I too still have a long way to go but just know it’s matter of when not if! I am a little scared to try again because I don’t want to ruin good progress but Ik that it will work again.
Good luck everyone and also thanks for being part of such a wonderful and supportive community!