Not sure if this is a success story

Tonight felt like an “L” but I’m trying to shift my mindset to maybe see it as a “W”.

I’ve been doing good lately. Feeling confident and not having any issues.

Today I went to be intimate with my GF. I was feeling anxious beforehand and sure enough, the man downstairs didn’t want to play. I did other things to please her and we just laid there and snuggled. I was open with her about feeling anxious and inadequate today. It’s really scary for me to show vulnerability to her.

Eventually I got aroused and we ended up having sex, although I was still feeling anxious so I finished earlier than I usually do.

I’m feeling really shitty about myself, but also trying to reframe this. Thanks for listening.

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You kept with it and allowed yourself to achieve a win. Don’t sell yourself short.

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Huge win - congrats dude

Well done mate

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Bro- you got as real as it gets! Nice work! Then finished with penetration!! For. The. W!! Who cares if you felt it was early. She’d already gotten off a time or 2, so it was your turn.
If I had got that real years ago I may have saved a great 23 yr marriage….

I’m super vulnerable with my new gf and she with me.

Seriously bro- you’re on the right track! It’s 90% mental!!
Proud of you! :+1: