Hey Guys
Just wanted to say we are our own worst enemies.
On the heels of one of my worst recent months, I was so anxious of initiating with my wife due to fear of failure. But this morning I woke up with a raging hard on and thought…fuck it I’m gonna go for it. I did and immediately got in my own head and failed.
BUT…after talking with my wife a bit we just held each other and talked. Well within 15 mins of talking and taking the pressure off I was massaging her and got super hard and she went down on me. Even had successful penetration. Went down on her to finished her off.
So strange the in the midst of total failure when we take our brain and put it at rest our body responds and everything seems normal.
Am I cured…no way, it will happen again, but I am writing this for all you guys and myself to remind us that we aren’t broken. It’s just our minds and our perfectionism.
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Nice work man!!!
I love hearing stories like this!
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Hey man, that’s honestly so great. What did you find helped you rest your brain and get your body to relax?
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That’s great to read, it’s totally in our heads isn’t it. Nothing physical, purely psychological. Keep at it, that’s a great step forward.
Just wanted to jump back in here and say…keep pushing forward. A few weeks after my original post above. Was able to have foreplay, oral and sex to completion with my wife. Didn’t last long but that’s not the point…lol Keep going guys!
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That’s awesome man I think it helps a lot to have a wife that cares and understands without shutting you down which is what I had
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nice brother , yeah bro it all comes down to confidence at the end of the day.
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Something similar happened to me last night. Last night I couldn’t perform and we just cuddled and slept all night. The morning after she had me massage her hips. She slipped my hand further and had me rubbing her. Next thing you know I’m poking her back with my meat stick and she feels it so we immediately get to work.
