Condoms being put on always fail… It stops the flow and triggers me as you become anxious from slectagoting your erection
Missionary style
When about to start actual penetration it feels like I freeze and I just start watching myself struggle to maintain an erection. Completely mess the mood up and signify the end of sex for the night.
When were making out and she starts touching it I start to worry
I often think that if foreplay starts in one room and we move to the other room, I won’t be able to get my erection back once we’re in the bedroom. Once it’s gone it’s gunna he 10x more difficult to get it back, self fulfilling prophecy.
I immediately go into spectator mode when the foreplay starts and start to get anxious when I’m noticing I’m not getting hard, thus making it impossible to get hard. And If I do get hard during the foreplay I can sometimes get anxious that I won’t remain hard long enough to get to the penatrative portion of sex. Generally speaking once I get to penatrative sex I feel like I’ve overcome all my anxiety and can have a good time
Yes switching positions any talk or distractions
It’s just everything leading up to sex. I notice that I’m not immediately getting hard during foreplay and then I focus on the fact I’m not hard. Then sometimes it happens and most of the time I just get more and more frustrated its not happening.
Thinking what my partner will think of I can’t get or lose my erection. Fear that it will make them feel unwanted or they might decide to end it if it keeps happening
I have noticed that the progression from foreplay to intercourse is when it starts - moreso when the condom goes on.
When I think about putting on a condom, I believe I can’t maintain an erection, and also in that period after some foreplay I feel the pressure building to get going
Definitely the transition between foreplay and penetration, and also condoms. These things seem to interrupt the flow of positive sensation for me, ironically. I’m comfortable doing foreplay, then I’m being asked to make this leap that I’m always terrified to make. Repetitive encounters like this build up in my head and ruin the experience for me.
I get so anxious about is my partner ready for sex because she is my first relationship so I don’t have a lot of experience with sex in general. I find that when I am hard and in the mood I am neglecting foreplay which takes her out of the mood and then when she mentions it I get into my head and starts the whole self critic and doubt with my cycle.
I am Kind of in that same boat . And we wants to have a family.
Anxious when it’s time to put it in. I don’t want to lose erection. The sexual position I’m not great in. The feeling of will it be comfortable due to the fact I am not circumcised because it use to pain me
Condoms, outside noise or movement
Putting on condom
Missionary position
Wife and I are trying to get pregnant.
It seems like there’s an increasing number. Condoms have alwasy been tricky to navigate putting them on. And lately, I worry when she’s on top, as I’ve had a couple of experiences where I’ve lost my erection then. But lately it seems to be increasing, so that everytime we’re about to have sex, I get anxious. And part of that is that difference in libido (mine is much higher) has been a huge issue in our relationship for so long. I deal with other anxieties, and this part of our relationship is definitely triggering for me. Unfortunately, through, even though it didn’t used to impact my ability to get and stay hard, it’s started to more and more often recently.