She is not skilled in touching a man
I don’t get her to orgasm
She talks about me not being hard
I’m definitely always nervous with someone new. Usually after I sleep with someone once I am good for the next time, but getting over that hurdle is difficult. And same thing with the condom, the extra time it takes can sometimes wreck the mood.
The pressure of my partner getting ready for penetration gives me a lot of pressure. I’m the one that has to find the hole and do the thrusting and the second it fails I lose all hope and get soft quickly. I also sometimes fear my penis is gonna bend or break when we do a riding position and a lot of weight is placed on it. When it doesn’t go into the whole completely smoothly it makes me fear that and it will also immediately go soft.
When he says cum in me while I’m fucking him I immediately assume I won’t be able to shoot a load up his ass.
My wife uses my erection as a measure of my attraction to her. This pressure creates the negative feedback loop where I worry about keeping or having an erection so I don’t cause her pain and make her feel unattractive. Alan’s of course the very fear becomes reality.
I get anxious around being erect enough for the condom to stay on. I don’t have aversions to using condoms just the worry about being firm enough.
In general I can worry that it won’t work without medication. I have to me tally really focus on just enjoying the experience of being with my wife and not soectatoring or being critical of myself.
Sure fire erection killers for me.
When my wife proposes sex instead of me.
Putting on the condom is definitely a trigger. In that video I kinda have an idea to beat it, which is the physical touch… having her touch me while I put it on.
Anything that makes me stop or takes me out of the moment. It gives enough space for the inner critic to sneak in, for the anxiety to start, and to lose my erection.
From a relationship where a condom wasn’t 100% necessary to a relationship where it is the route of Safe Sex, it instantly triggers the spectator in me and I’m too focused on trying to keep it up and feel Through the condom. Doing this then makes me overthink about keeping it hard and I lose the erection fairly quickly, which then leads to a 5 minute intermission of trying to get it erect again.
As soon as the foreplay heats up, I know both of us are expecting things to escalate, and I feel myself starting to become aroused, my mind immediately hyper focuses on my whether my erection is continuing to grow.
Rejection or lack of excitement or willing interested in partner. Partner not providing feedback and/or not participating much by not reciprocating foreplay on me.
The first time I had sex, she was riding me and in my head I told myself that I was unable to feel the sensation I got from masturbation, and boom my erection was gone.
Initiation and wether I’m adequate or big enough in bed
The first time sleeping with someone, I just fear that I’m not comfortable and it won’t work.
When its time to put a condom on, the spectatoring starts and breaks the entire flow.
When it’s time to penetrate.
Definitely transitioning between foreplay and intercourse. Some times even only a few seconds to change the position can cause a total election loss. The time it takes to go from laying on my back, to on top of my wife has caused election loss.
Thinking about it and spectatoring, I’m aroused during foreplay but when it comes to doing the deed my mind goes into panic mode
Definitely any distraction or interruption prior to the main event causes me anxiety!..the voice of anxiety asks " will it stay up? Will I actually perform in a way that will satisfy partner? Must seriously plan event to avoid any possible interruptions or events that will take my focus from time with my wife.
All this preparation to not fail takes away from what made Casual sex HOT…l want those moments back in my life