Been doing ok in controlling the urge to watch porn. My wife has gone away for the weekend and I immediately wanted to watch porn. I battles with my inner critic and had thoughts of “you need to release this stress” and “just this once and you’ll feel better”. I ended up convincing myself that I needed it so watched porn and masturbated. Felt great to relieve the stress but immediately felt guilty and shame for not being able to control the urge. Trying to rationalise it but I feel super ashamed and now worried about the urge coming back again today and not being able to control it. Any tips on this?
Hey man. Don’t try and give it all up at once or it will be a real struggle. I’ve given up porn for about a week now but still masturbate. Then next week, going to try and give that up. So far it’s been okay
We’ve all been there, my friend! Be easy on yourself and remind yourself you’re already ahead of where you were when you quit porn. It’s a powerful thing and it’s easy to slip up. Give yourself some grace, get rid of the guilt as best you can, and tell yourself you’re going to resist the next urge. One moment at a time. We’re not perfect and you’re a good person. Porn is a beast for a lot of us and you’re doing what you need to do to get there. You’ve got this! Oh yeah, and make that mental break between porn and masturbation. You can totally masturbate without the porn. Good luck, my brother!
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Also masturbation should not be done no?
There are different camps on this one. I’m of the pro-masturbate, but do it differently. Change your technique, touch, etc. I still think the big problem is compulsive use of porn and how we connect our bodies and minds to that visual hyperstimulation. We need to reconnect with our real bodies, sensations, internal sexual energy and not dopamine rushes through sight/porn.