I was completely reliant on porn. Masturbating twice daily and using porn every morning and night. When I quit and forced myself to reduce the amount I masturbated the change amazing. Despite some difficult moments of weakness intimacy with my wife is more enjoyable than ever and performance is better than ever
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Congratulations on your success!
I might have same issues. In a long term relationship and monogamous. I have always been poly and am used to having sex with many partners. Now that I’m mono I seek “other partners” in the shape of porn. 2-6 times a day.
After 8 months of being in a mono relationship with my gf I’ve noticed I don’t WANT to have sex with her even tho the attraction is there. Seems like I’m hitting a block in my mind.
Can you relate to any of this?
Same for me. Been in the relationship for 10 years. I feel like I would prefer having sex with like basically every decently looking woman over my wife, despite her being pretty good locking overall. I do love her however and if I have good sex with her I do feel sexually fulfilled at least for 1-2 days. I think it is not so much that I do find other women more attractive or whatever, it is just my brain craving novelty and excitement. Poly relationship is not for me, since I could not stand her sleeping with other men. What if they are better in bed and have bigger dicks and so on? I have nightmares about this, so I try to be contempt with what I have and improve the sex with my wife as much as possible, e.g. by reducing porn as much as possible (this does in fact help a lot for me). If jealousy and my low self esteem wouldn’t be such a problem though I would definitely try to go poly…
Honestly I think porn just becomes an easy quick pressure-less and expectation-less simple way out. But by quitting I ended up sex with my wife so much more. The variety that porn gives you is too much and unrealistic and is damaging us
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Honestly, I don’t even think poly is necessarily for me right now either. With this particular girlfriend, we’d both have jealousy issues. In the past that wasn’t so much a problem. But it really sucks trying to wrap my head around this single partner for the foreseeable and porn definitely knocks out a ton of the desire temporarily.
For anyone who has quit porn entirely, thoughts? Did it truly help? I know the OP said so but I’m curious for more stories.
How long did it take for you to notice a difference? I didn’t use it quite as much as you but I have been off porn for a month but haven’t noticed much of a difference yet and still dealing with ED issues