So it all started with my (now ex) girlfriend. She was older than me and pretty hot. The first time we wanted to have sex i was super nervous, because i didn’t want to disappoint.
Result was that i went into fight or flight and couldn’t get it up. Never happened to me before and i didn’t even know this could happen. She was super understandable but it planted the first seed of doubt in my head.
Through our 2 year relationship this only happened once again because i was super stressed and only in my head.
After we broke up i havent dated for a long time. As i started again these two scenarios popped up in my mind and i never wanted it to happen again. I created this all in my head.
Someone gave me sildenafil just to try and i liked it. Been using it ever since then (maybe 1 1/2) years.
Problem is, i am constantly traveling around due to work etc. So i am only at one place for like a month or two.
Sometimes i am dating, but i never build a deeper connection with someone, so i dont feel real comfortable with them. This makes it hard for me to reduce the dosage.
Tried it before, but i thought so much about needing it that it didn’t work.
In general i am a very big overthinker and have anxiety etc. Now i have this problem too.
What would you do? Do you guys think a therapist would help? (Not directly a sex therapist)