Only get realy hard when super close to climax

So, I’m noticing a pattern now that I’m mindfully masturbating. I’m getting really hard (success), but first I have to edge close to climax with a semi hard penis, stop, cool down, and start again. After a few cycles, I’m hard and can climax. I’d like to be able to get hard, then work toward a climax while staying hard.

2 questions:

Is this common or something others have experienced?

Strategies for getting hard before being so close to climax?

Thanks!

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Tbh it varies from day to day for me. Some days I’m as you describe.

I just slow it down and spend longer teasing myself and get more comfortable with a longer time to get hard - gentle teasing strokes and also touching other zones of my body that help arouse me - as per mojo solo sensate type exploration.

Got it. I haven’t really gotten into the sensate yet. Thanks for sharing.

I wanted to add that i do have to consciously relax and allow that slow arousal to happen and trust that it will - slow deep breaths and so on - it can be tempting to revert to old ways to get hard - but I’ve found the effort to slow down worth it.

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