I just cancelled my membership as it has made my ED worse. The exercises are worthless and the meditation breathing exercises are a joke.
Hey there, your comment about being anxious and seeking your lady’s reassurance sounds a bit like me. I’d highly recommend the book “Attached” by Amir Levine . It will almost certainly help you with anxious attachment issues.
Best to ya!
I had similar issues but once I got comfortable with my partner the easier it was to relax and enjoy sex much more. I went through a break up and my confidence was knocked huge so was difficult to feel comfortable and feel ok. There is nothing wrong in my opinion in getting reassurance from your partner of that helps you further.
Until reading this I didn’t think about the OCD factor. What you describe is exactly how my brain works…even in every day situations not related to sex. Telling yourself to calm down definitely does not work; in fact it makes it worse.
I have the exact same issues Man so I hear ya! I am thinking of joining Mojo too but on the fence at the moment
Hey,
To your specific question: Body Scanning Meditation can help. However, I’ll give you my entire story here below.
I was in a similar situation 2 yrs ago (35yrs by then). I went through a similar experience when an anxiety crisis kicked in, while I was starting to date a new girl (which created even more pressure).
I got medicated by an urologist, and it worked for a bit but then sometimes it didn’t work again, which increased the anxiety.
However, you’re right. This specific situation also made me realize that it was purely mental which, in hindsight, it was somewhat a relief.
At that point, I decided to work with a psychologist to get a better understanding of the situation.
Therapy was actually what helped the most, but not any therapy. The one that worked well for me was “Brief Strategic Therapy”.
Although it might feel quite overwhelming at this point for you, I can assure you that it gets better and is solvable. My suggestion is therapy.
Currently, I am here using this Mojo app for two reasons:
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Because sometimes some of those thoughts kick in again, and I wanted to avoid a situation like in the past, and address it calmly and in a guided way.
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I felt like I needed to revisit some of the key concepts from therapy that helped quite well in the past.
This content has proven amazing so far, and I wish I had known about this 2 yrs ago.
I believe I suffer from OCD when it comes to focusing on what I can’t do by having to stop and get ready or not
I have the same issues and experience, my ocd makes all the negative thoughts in my head stronger and shuts me down almost immediately, my partner doesn’t pressure me and helps calm me down when it happens but it’s so hard to talk myself out of the thoughts
It’s an extremely selfish sentiment that I hold, but I dread having to put a condom on as I struggle to get hard with someone new (because of an irrational flight-or-fight mode) and find it adds an extra challenge to enjoying the moment.
What has worked for me is taking my time - experimenting, pleasuring and focusing on her (not just going down but massaging her, making her laugh, etc) and once in that headspace my worries disappear from the front of my mind, I relax, and things happen 
Hello. I too think I suffer from some form of OCD after reading so many of the responses here. I have not been “diagnosed” but all the comments are leading me to believe I have OCD.
Like everyone here I am in my head constantly and I have a very attractive girlfriend with a wonderful disposition to go along with her physical beauty and it is my goal to pleasure her fully.
Meds stopped working, I had a bout with suicidal thoughts, I am a mess and need to find some way to get beyond this.
Any and all help would be appreciated.
I have very bad anxiety and panic attacks. I take Lexapro and Ativan. I’m not sure if either of these could be causing problems for me, but I have trouble feeling much of anything down there during sex. It has me very afraid.
I have no privacy nor way of getting privacy to do any of this shit