Noticed my inner critic when ai went soft, and I was able to calm myself and get more confortable

[rapid-coffee-cat]

Just a quick win I wanted to share.

So last weekend night I went to this girl’s house.

I was hard, I even got 5mg cialis in case a few hours before in order to be able to perform.

We started with kissing and foreplay, but actually when she got naked I wasn’t that attracted to her and probably lost some libido.

Then when we switched to foreplay I started going soft,and I felt my body shutting down and my inner critic got louder with thoughts like:

“I am getting soft even with cialis, I am broken, this is a serious problem”

“Since I got soft it’s game over tonight, I won’t get it hard again”

“She will think I am a weirdo and that I have some deep issues”

Luckily I got aware of these thoughts after a bit and I was able to self-sooth myself with more self-compassionate and self-acceptance statements like “It’s ok, you are not broken” etc, and it helped calming me down.

So we just stayed there cuddling, maybe it helped also that she was fine with it, and didn’t say anything about me being soft, but she was also pretty inexperienced.

So after a bit of chilling there and cuddling I got hard again, and the inner critic was silent.

So we got back into foreplay, but since she was pretty inexperienced, we didn’t have any penetrative sex, and then just went to sleep.

But yeah, didn’t have sex but it partially feels like a success story, since I avoided to spiral into excessive negative self talk and the usual toxic shame.

I still felt a bit concerned the day later because it happened even with the cialis, and it made me realise that now it’s like a learned habit.. the trigger of going foreplay to avout to have sex… or going from the sofa to the bed shuts my body down and kills my libido and boner.

[renewed-green-primate]

This is a huge realisation and a major victory in my view. You took a pill designed to give you an erection and it didn’t work but you fixed the problem using your own mind. You’ve got that mental cialis and it don’t cost a thing. Congrats brother!

[new-magenta-koala]

I’ve found that the subconscious or mental or emotional, as well as the physical, can kill the effects of ED meds. I’ve been using Rugiet Resdy (combo of Viagra and Cialis and an arousal aide) for about a month. My results have been about 50/50-half the time I’m at full staff, on boner auto-pilot, and half the time fading in and out of softness.

[superb-fuchsia-asp]

I use Rugiet and have had pretty good success with it. The key for me is my head wouldn’t let the meds work. Just last night we were both tired, but I had taken one a 1/2 hour before ‘bed’…. She gave me great head and kinda wore herself out. (I have death grip so I didn’t finish…) I did go down on her and got her off a couple times before we went to sleep. She was up to pee at 5am. Came back to bed and started gettin frisky. I ended up going for 15-20 min then she helped me finish! A couple times I started to go soft… I focused on her sexiest parts, she knows I like explicit (mildly dirty…) talk, and she loves to play with herself while I F her. All helped me get back on track… good luck!