So I’m 34. Gay. Was a bit of a late bloomer. Didn’t have my first real relationship till I was 22.
And I’ve literally never been able to stay hard during sex. It’s always been a major source of shame for me. I can sometimes manage an erection in the beginning of a night with a partner but by the time clothes come off it’s nowhere to be seen. I’ve tried therapy. I’ve tried pumps. I’ve tried pills. Nothing has helped. I’m at my wits end here. I don’t even bother trying to have sex any more because what’s the point. It makes me feel like something is wrong with me, hearing all my friends talk about how much they enjoy themselves and knowing that I can’t no matter how much I try. I’m hoping someone else has been through this and come out the other side.
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Do the pills help during solo time?
I had given up on partnered sex, and gone 
solo to avoid the shame/guilt…
I’m with a new GF (3mo) and she’s super supportive. I’m told I give pretty good, but I want to F her sooo bad. I get hard but can’t get from foreplay/head to intercourse successfully and I haven’t come from sex or anything other than my hand or a toy in years.
In fact just last night I attempted to f her and lost it. Later she was giving me head and I ended up coming a bit. Then this morning I came from her handy as well!! I have to give credit to this app and helping ID my issues: I’m hooked on porn and way too used to my own hand, (quit both 7 days ago….
) I I’m way too into my own head, I have a deviant lil self critic that I didn’t realize I had (there’s a bit here to help silence it!!..), and I catastrophise, which dooms my wood…
I’d found that if I took a Cialis for use that evening, I’d get hard for a bit during foreplay, then lose it when it counted.
But the next morning, after she was gone, I could open a beer bottle with my tool!!!
Boom! My issue was in my head!!!
This app will help with that!!
Pay the fee. Explore the app.
Read it all. Do the exercises. Even the ones that seem silly. It all helps. I’m not cured. But I see progress!!!
3 week member.
Good luck man!
There are so many of us on here that conclude… it’s in our head… and it really seems to be the basic problem.
There are nuances… but this is often the overwhelming point.
The app helps with this. Also read about all us other guys in similar positions.
The app works…
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