Moving away from pills

I’ve been taking cialis which has overall helped my erections I’m sure. But suffering from major tinnitus with it so need to stop.

I’m scared the next time I’m with my partner I’ll be super anxious without it. I’m sure it’s done very little and my ED is purely psychological. I have good test, workout, have morning erections most days and no real issues solo. Just very stress related I’m trying to get on top of. The cialis has been at least a placebo!

Any thoughts to manage the anxiety and prepare? I won’t see her for a week. Has anyone else dropped the pills you were using as a crutch? Maybe did help somewhat.. how did you go?

Talk to your partner and make sure you’re both in the same mindset going in of pleasure first.
Going soft can be because of a disconnect between your body and minds arousal levels. If it happens, just focus on touch and sensations and let it come back up. It will, just don’t rush past where your body is too quickly. It’ll get to the same point as your mind eventually.
Remember if you go soft, you can get hard again. You get hard in the mornings and you got hard in order to go soft. There’s no consequence. No issue.
Think to yourself before sex, if I go soft, what will happen to me? What is bad? Does that make any sense? You need to realise there’s no consequence to going soft. It’s not a bad thing. Just recenter yourself in the moment (sometimes naming 3-5 things you can see/hear/feel helps), and keep going.

Basically don’t try and force yourself to be hard and get stressed about not being hard. Your body knows how to do it, so let it at its pace.

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Mate in the same boat. Tryna quit porn for so long and dropped the habit all the way down to like 1-2 times a month, but lost my confidence and was using it a a crutch. One thing ive realised is the stories we tell ourselves have a big impact as much as our bad habits. I work out, got my test checked and was all good, and was using it when i flatlined. But ive come to the realisation that I am perfectly healthy and i’ve had sex 2-3 times without now. Not perfect yet but you sound like your in a similar position. Taper back the pills so split them into half doses, at first. Then trust in your body to do the rest, you dont need to be hard before your aroused. Be present and you will respond.

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One last thing. If you see your partner dont stress sex in the evening, if it happens it happens if not, wait til morning and your test will spike and you will be solid as a rock🤣

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The pressure I put on myself is she is pretty keen to have sex as much as possible. I know she’d had one partner in the last year had gone ā€œmany roundsā€ like she could even quote ā€œfour times in 6 hoursā€ or ā€œseven times in 24 hoursā€ and we’ve talked about how that guy was fully hard during all that. ā€œhotpastā€ is a bit of a kink I have and she’s happy to be open, but its kinda backfired almost! I can match that and definitely solo could no worries, but with her I dont stay hard always and it plays on me she wants to be fucked silly multiple times.

She’s super supportive and done the sensate touch and stuff which has been a huge help, and logically I know this isn’t a thing. Like my own secual past I have had women do some things objectively better in ways but in no way do I come close to comparing the connection I have with my girlfriend to those, and I know its the same for her 100%. But it still plays on me ..!

I’m on the daily dose pills, just 2.5mg every day. No side effects from them at all so far, and they’ve fixed the erection problems completely so it seems.

The Mojo therapies helped me to isolate the psych issues I had/have, and by dealing with them I was able to realise that I do have a very slight physical problem, in that erections are not as hard as they used to be (I’m 51!). This slight loss of ā€˜structure’ at crucial moments was causing anxiety, and the anxiety snowballed. But the tiny doses of cialis/tadafinil daily have reminded me what erections are meant to feel like - I’d forgotten! - and so the anxiety is much less.

Have you tried lowering your doses / are you on the daily doses or just ā€˜for the occasion’?

I’d been taking 5mg daily and upping to 10mg the days I see my girlfriend. It definitely helps with erections yeah, but if the psych ED kicks in I could take all the cialis in the world and not overcome it. Maybe if I hadn’t upped or taken extra wouldn’t of impacted so badly.

I’ve had tinnitus at times in the past but mostly subsides. Now since taking cialis I have noticable constant tinnitus. I’ve read up its basically cumulative the impact, so no more for me!

I’m only 36, test is normal to high, lift weights, hike, so it’s not likely any physical issue here. Glad for you its helped and I know for lots cialis is a huge help, even was for me until the tinnitus flared.

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It is so frustrating, isn’t it! Sex is supposed to be the best thing and our brains turn it into this source of stress. If only there was a way to just shut that part of our minds down…

I use viagra. No issues when solo. Typically wake up with an etection. But in the moment with my wife I guess it is all ā€œin my headā€. Did I take my pill? Why do I need a pill? Will it work 100% this time? Will I stay hard for longer than 5 mins? Is she disappointed in me? Will I cum this time? Did she at least get off? Etc

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Great comment

Going through the exact same thing. No issues on my own, just get so panicky when it actually comes to it that i cant get it up. 40 YO and stuggled with this on and off most my adult life. Met a girl i really like a couple of months ago after being divorced for 2.5 years, and weve had pill assisted and some natural but has failed a few times. Starting to give myself so much grief over it now. Need a reset

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