As of yesterday I made it official with my girlfriend. We’ve been dating and talking for a month. We have had many occasions of giving each other oral, and her giving me handjobs. I’ve been able to maintain and erection and stay hard throughout all the foreplay. However, when I put the condom on for sex I get soft. This has happened 2 times now. Each time I was hard during foreplay but could not keep it up long enough for sex once the condom is on. Has anyone experienced this? I’m very attracted to this girl and she has been the best to me. She is also very understanding of my situation and is fully supportive of me on this journey. I’ve hooked up with multiple other girls and never had an issue getting and keeping an erection. This is my first time having a girlfriend and I have very real feelings for her. Any suggestions or tips on how to better prepare and stay hard for sex? I’ve been making some progress on this app for the past couple weeks. Thank you in advance for any advice!
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You have stage fright and condoms suck. Get her on the pill and raw dog her. Lol
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Ignore that first comment. If condom sex is the route you and/or her want to go then go for it. Try meditating beforehand and also figuring out your inner critic to prevent spectating.
Also try some of the exercises like sensate and directed masterbation. Sometimes we have to teach ourselves out of the “deathgrip” way of getting stimulated. Good luck!
I agree I had the same problem but after we just went raw I didn’t have it anywhere near as much
I’ve had this problem all my life. I’m 53 and after joining mojo Ive greatly improved with this issue. So just stick with it.