I’ve been doing MOJO for 2 weeks and I haven’t had a chance to try any new techniques yet. I’m in my 30’s and have suffered with ED my whole adult life. It really makes it so my wife isn’t interested in sex as she never gets her finish on the first go. It’s always made me feel like crap after I cum and all I seem to do is apologize. I am learning about my inner critic and hoping to shut him up soon as I’m my own worst enemy. I just want her to be satisfied and im hoping this can get me lasting longer than a min on the first go around. And the going solo first isn’t an option when trying to have a kid either.
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Almost the same situation here for me! Mojo helped me realize I was so in my head, I always knew I was harder on myself than anyone else, but didn’t know how detrimental it was to me in all aspects of life.
Your sex life sounds exactly like mine, for the last 9 months or so I’d get so nervous fight or flight would kick in and I’d cum in a minute or less after entering. Mojo is giving me some techniques to help, but I have only able to try once which resulted in a half win. My wife is so frustrated and isn’t interested in other means of getting off or multiple rounds (it’s usually bedtime and we’ve got young kids so we’re exhausted).
Anyway, hang in there and keep trying, it will get better since you’re here putting in the work. The good news is you’re finishing so you are contributing what you need to for making a baby, though I will admit it’s easier if she enjoys it as well. Maybe when trying, having sex more often will give you the chance to try what you’ve learned and reduce some stress/ get you used to it and you’ll be able to last a bit longer. Good luck!
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Dont got an issue with ED but definately do with PE. Im in my mid-late 30s and Ive been with my partner 10 years nearly now and the whole time we have had experiences very similar to yours.
Im lasting between a minute and 3 minutes, and like yourself just seem to always be apologising afterwards. Her libido has definatley decreased over the years and I just feel to blame for that.
She says she loves me and isnt going awaywhere but its always on my mind. Ive tried hypnotherapy, medication, sex toys, you name it.
Going to give these pelvic floor exercises a go this week, as well as this app which im new to.
Thanks for sharing. Good luck
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Be careful doing those exercises. I’ve read they can actually cause or worsen ED if done incorrectly.
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Wow, ok. Good to know
It can be such a ‘corrosive’ issue and often both parties end up ‘feeling bad’. It is crucial to talk about things, if it helps find a therapist for a few sessions and have those conversations. The good news is you can change things, still have fun, feel connected and loved. Often so much of it is our heads and once we have spoken about our fears and worries it really helps and couples can go onto co create a fun future, with stress free intimacy. Good luck : )
The average time for men to cum is 5-7 mins so your case is not so bad. I may not even say it’s really PE, but more like performance axiety (im my case, i cum right after, or even before penetration). If you do kegel exercises, always strech your pelvic floor because a too tight muscle is as bad as a too loose one. Start-stop technics can also help you to improve performance and meditation can help you to get rid of negative thoughts like i will come too early.
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Ive tried the stop start technqiue and meditation. Wasnt successful. I appreciate the average time is 5-7mins but im rarely lasting over 2, 2 is a great day. so this is definately PE. You are correct it may be performance anxiety but is that not how PE manifests? Thanks for the kegal exercise advice 