Hi,
I just joined the site today.
My situation is that I have come out of a 26 year marriage (I am 66 years of age). My new partner and I have been attempting sex for around a month andf I find I have no trouble getting hard and I can ejaculate if I masturbate but cannot come inside her. She tried several times to pleasure me instead and managed to make me come once with a hand job but I dealry want to come inside her. When I go to start the app it is dealing with erection issues but that is not my issues, I need help with ejaculation. One thing that is major difference is my new partner loves sex and is very assertive and open sexually (I always wanted this but for 26 years my wife seemed to have the attitude sex was for making kids and not for pleasure, she just laid there and wanted me to “get it done” and then go to sleep. My new partner is all over me and loves intimacy and intercourse. I always manage through foreplay to satisfy her but she is really wanting me to come. The first few times when I tried all I could think was tenderness and romantic thoughts and this seemed to take me in the wrong direction, I need a bit of animal instinct I think, anyway, any advice much appreciated and any help to modify the app goals to deal speciaifcally with non or delayed ejactulation please
I’ve struggled with this too and it was my primary reason for joining the program. I’ve been working on it for several months now and the key for me is to focus on the touch and sensation exercises. Getting out of my head and stopping the urge to focus on the goal of coming and according stressing about not coming. And I would have a chat with your partner about it as well, be open with her about how much you love the experience but that your currently working to get out of your own stress loop related to coming. There’s a great video in the communications section where a guy demonstrates exactly how to have this very conversation
Same issue. Only I was with frosty thevsnowcwife forv23 years… 
New gf loves sex and is satisfied with oral, fingers and toys. We’ve managed to start having sex pretty good this year, but I can’t cum either… I can when I’m alone with or without porn. We’ve started her jerking me once sex is over or I tap out.. I can usually go for 10-15 min -she’ll finish 1-2 times during sex and 2-3 times during foreplay. She’ll start playing with me and then I’ll have to take over to finish myself. She loves to watch and caresses me and plays with my balls and nipples while encouraging me to cum. Most of the time I’m successful. It’s kinda hot stroking while she watches. I love to watch her as well.
I very much relate to your post. I just signed up for the seven day trial yesterday to try addressing this exact issue for myself. I was married for 15 years to someone who treated sex like a chore and didn’t really engage much during. Then after divorce found an amazing partner with a great sex drive. We’re poly though, and while sex with this partner goes great, anytime I start seeing someone new it feels like I just can’t finish.