If you could go back and tell your younger self about what you wish you knew about earlier or what is some advice that would help you- currently 18 virgin 
Don´t put so much pressure on yourself, enjoy the experience for what it is.
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Thank you for taking time to respond 
I would tell my younger self that the notion that you should feel bad about masturbation is B.S. That occasional (not extreme) masturbation won’t screw up your ability to have sex with a partner. That we all have a fantasy about what our first time will be like and it’s normal to be nervous about it (and it’s unlikely to match that fantasy). That your partner is also nervous! How valuable communication with your partner can be about your hopes and expectations related to sex well BEFORE you actually have sex.
I was fortunate to form a healthy attitude about sex from reading a really good sex advice columnist. Sex can be a fun, feel-good way to connect with your partner. I recommend reading a few different sources of sex advice until you find some sensible perspectives.
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I would tell myself it’s nothing to be afraid of as long as you’re responsible. Everyone and everything does it. It should be fun so don’t stress over it.
I would’ve waited till I was married, if I was able to do it all again.
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Thank you for taking your time to respond these have been very helpful and encourage me to do the same 
Thank you for taking your time to respond I do think these are main struggles for people who don’t know (myself included until now but I still struggle )
I am curious as to why was it because you thought it was too soon or was it just not the one or the right timing for that to take place 
I am wondering this because I struggle with this as well and I would like to know at least why because I am currently desperate I hate to say but it’s true 
Masturbation, in my opinion is fine. I’m saying that I would have waited to have sex. I believe that it is something that nowadays is taken too lightly. My spiritual feelings on the matter greatly differ to the majority of societies input on the subject. Sex is such a special act that it’s a shame imo that we merely regarded as pleasure. I understand how you’re feeling though. Lastly, sex outside of marriage just causes way too many problems IMO. Masterbate all you want though lol
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I agree. I’m at the sex being a sacred bond end of the spectrum that builds from a committed friendship/relationship/ marriage - but may be in the minority there…!
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Enjoy it. And don’t sweat it.
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I agree with you here on this sorry for this late response but I also feel ashamed after I masturbate even though everyone says it’s healthy and good and there is a lot out there saying it helps I just feel like I have done something wrong and that I deserve stuff that is bad I don’t know why I just beat myself up about it and I don’t know how to deal with this issue I have dealt with this for years and don’t know why or how I got myself into this
yes indeed
Thanks for taking time to respond I do have this use a lot 