that sounds so traumatic, I’m so sorry @latin-white-moth. It’s admirable you’re trying exercises to work through this memory and stop it from impacting your sex life — though honestly, I imagine the process is really tough. Hope you’re feeling stronger for it.
If you need to get it out, the Mojo community is a good place to vent and find people overcoming similar challenges. You’re in my thoughts. Good luck!
I didn’t find the exercise upsetting. Not long after I started to touch it it inflated a little. But after a while I began to start thinking why hasn’t it started to go up more. After I batted those thoughts away a few minutes later It began inflating again to full
My inner critic was saying “we can do this!”
My thought was that I’m small and unimpressive but tried to focus on the pleasure of touching and found the gentler I was the more aroused I became
I am not getting any erection, wouldn’t it be nice to get one- Even though the aim of the exercise was not having it, I was sort of hoping it. I feel I am in constant state of validating myself in every opportunity.
I am not getting any erection, wouldn’t it be nice to get one- Even though the aim of the exercise was not having it, I was sort of hoping it. I feel I am in constant state of validating myself in every opportunity. I realised that I was treating my penis harsh in general.(I mean not liking it and being generally negative about it)
Basically mocking size
I just felt this weird critiquing feeling the the front left side of my head and the pit of my stomach. My left shoulder would tense slightly as well. I was quick to shut it down and relax and enjoy myself
My thought was that I’m small and unimpressive but tried to focus on the pleasure of touching and found the gentler I was the more aroused I became
The inner critic was surprisingly quiet, but had to say something about size, obviously!
My thought was that I’m small and unimpressive but tried to focus on the pleasure of touching and found the gentler I was the more aroused I became
My inner critic acknowledged that this was fine and good, but what happens when my partner is here? Will my partner understand that this is fun for me? Will I be able to relax this much with them around?
That I should be self conscious. I overall just felt really uncomfortable for some reason. Like, I almost didn’t accept ‘him’ as part of me. It was a long 10 minutes
Small soft
At first, It was just critiquing my penis, but I have been pretty good about identifying the inner critic lately so I try to no listen to it as soon as I identify it. It works pretty well. Especially if you can think of it like in a meditation practice. At some points the critic would tell me I wasnt going to get hard anyway, so i didn’t have to worry about getting hard in the exercise. And then, about 5 minutes in, I found that instead of worrying about not getting hard I was laughing because I was literally having to suppress an erection. I still heard the critic then though. It was still saying things like, “well this is just a exercise. You already know you can get hard while masturbating. It’s when your’e with a girl that it’s difficult”
I think these type of thoughts are definitely effecting me negatively when it comes to performance anxiety. These thoughts are the thoughts that trigger the panic which in turn causes the immobility. I find peace in being able to identify them through these practices though
The inner critic told me I should be getting erect.
Why are you doing this? You should at least get semi erect
feels good bro
I wonder why it isn’t hard yet. Why am I not getting aroused. If I was aroused then would I get an erection? Probably not.
It felt good not to have the pressure to have an erection