I’ve tried what seems like everything and I cannot for the life of me keep my erection stiff enough for penetration and it’s wearing on my partner and I. It’s heartbreaking because all I want to do is please her but something that seemed so easily for me years ago has become like an Achilles heel to me. I just want this problem to go away so I can be happy and not lose the love of my life
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Have you tried going to the doctor to rule out any physical issues?
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ED is common in men over the age of 40, I recommend talking to a urologist or your care provider. I take tadalafil, which, in addition to this app, eating healthy, and exercising, has helped tremendously.
Hey there, it seems like you’re putting a lot of pressure on yourself to please your partner, which is likely making the situation worse because every time you have sex it becomes a performance and a judgement about you with massive consequences (losing the love of your life). I don’t blame you having this problem – most men would if the stakes were this high.
One thing i’ve seen people mention in the community that’s helped them break out of the cycle is to take penetration off the table and focus on intimacy in other ways. Don’t worry, you can bring it back in due course, but this might take some of the pressure off and help you both explore other ways to be satisfied and connected.
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