I was dating this girl a while ago, she is the only girl I have ever slept with and she ended things with me because I couldn’t stay hard. I have basically turned into a shell of myself since this happened, I don’t enjoy anything, I can’t think straight I feel disgusting all the time. I can’t even let my hand touch another body part to even scratch an itch or anything like that without feeling uncomfortable. I’m not sure what the point of sharing any of this is but I need to get it off my chest and I’m not about to tell anyone I know, basically I feel disgusting and life just hasn’t been very good for a while I was dating this girl a while ago, she is the only girl I have ever slept with and she ended things with me because I couldn’t stay hard. I have basically turned into a shell of myself since this happened, I don’t enjoy anything, I can’t think straight I feel disgusting all the time. I can’t even let my hand touch another body part to even scratch an itch or anything like that without feeling uncomfortable. I’m not sure what the point of sharing any of this is but I need to get it off my chest and I’m not about to tell anyone I know, basically I feel disgusting and life just hasn’t been very good for a while
Girls have let me go for coming to early for the last 12 years. But I have never tried to do anything about it. I have changed that now and follow this program.
So instead of feeling bad about myself, I tell myself that I am working on it every day.
Additionally, I exercise frequently to ensure I stay sharp and attractive.
I guess in the future both will pay off and give me the sex life I want.
It can be very easy to loose your confidence and I’m sorry that you’re in a difficult place at the moment. But great you have found Mojo. So many men will begin avoiding sex because they are so worried they wont get hard. Going through the Mojo exercises will help you learn about your erections, your negative thoughts and how you can get back into your body and out of your head. You will get your confidence back initially by yourself and then you can put it into partnered sex. Good luck, you’ve got this, you’ve started to make some positive changes already : )
Not being able to keep an erection sucks. But being rejected for it is even worse.
We are social animals. We need to feel accepted by other people. Being intimate with someone means making yourself vulnerable to that person. She rejected you after you let yourself be vulnerable around her. So it’s no wonder things are looking pretty grey for you right now. This must have been a very traumatic experience.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years is that you’re the only person that will love you unconditionally. No one else will. So you need to be a good at loving yourself. Right now it sounds like you’re uncomfortable in your own skin
Take the time to follow the program. Learn to be intimate with yourself again. Love your body, soft or hard, and take care of it well. Learn to enjoy touching yourself again.
Your confidence took a big hit. It will take time to build it back up. But it isn’t just a matter of time it’s a matter of putting in the effort. You need to do things that will make you more confident. I find that flirting with girls always makes me feel better. Not having an erection has not impact when you’re just flirting. But it’s a great way to socialize and when things go well it’s a huge confidence boost. When things don’t go well, just remember you can’t please everyone.
Be gentle on yourself, take time, and pull yourself out of that mindset. You’ve been through something very difficult and it’s normal to feel this way, but you can’t let one bad experience stop you.
You need to let it go. Do you really want to be with someone that could not understand you were having some issues? Work on yourself by going to the gym, work on self development, work on your confidence. Do things you enjoy and live whether it’s sports, art, music, etc. try and find girls where you do what you enjoy. Your confidence will come out and you’ll find another girl soon. Highly recommend reading a book called Models - Attract Women Through Honesty. It will change your life.