I’m afraid that getting rid of the shame of not getting an erection will remove the drive to want to get better at having them? It’s sort of like having the shame is self fulfilling prophecy but not having shame removes the want to get better?
It can be complicated when our ‘heads’ and negative thoughts get in the way. Shame is a difficult emotion/feeling. Not being able to get an erection should not be a ‘shameful’ thing - but we can easily make into one. By the sounds of it you want to change things and get better erections - that is a healthy desire. Mojo can help you with getting out of your head and back into your body. Trying to remove the shame will help untangle some of the thoughts around this. You will hopefully be able to enjoy your erections again. Good luck : )