I have never been able to finish from oral sex and I was wondering if anyone had insights to help me. I can always get and stay hard, but everything starts to feel numb and then I kind of want it to just be over and I start to pity my gf putting in effort for nothing. I feel like i clench a little I don’t know how to let that go. I feel like I should be able to cum easily from head but I feel weird and bad that I can’t. I start to get upset at myself and then sometimes her (which is not fair) so now I avoid head or only use it as foreplay if I feel like it sometimes. She really wants me to finish in her mouth but I don’t know what to do and also how to not feel bad about her going down on me cuz I know it’s something she wants to do and it just kills the mood
Don’t worry about it so much! She can alternate between hands and mouth and when you’re ready she’ll get down there and suck you dry! If she’s asking you to finish in her mouth then don’t feel bad, just take it easy - it doesn’t have to be all or nothing.
I have literally never heard of someone who could come just from head, lol. I feel like this is a total myth that is harmful in your case. Head does feel amazing to me, though, especially if there some thrusting involved and I just find it supersexy as a lead up to PIV. If you want cum in her mouth just let her jerk while shes sucking on the tip.
I don’t think it is as uncommon as you might think. My old gf commented on how easy and calm I was, finishing easily in her mouth. She said she had had two experiences where the guys were too tense to finish. The first was a bf and the second was a one night stand on holiday. Her trick was to start in her mouth, then when the guy tensed and she felt it wasn’t happening, she would ride him until he relaxed, then continue with the bj. She made a point of licking herself off the guy and making a big thing of it, which also got the guys going.
Would you be open to a finger in you to get your p spot going? That may help.