Constant touching and continual connection whether when your putting a condom on your partner does it or your still connecting in some way must help to keep your mind off the pressure and not lose the moment
Kissing and touch are big things for me. I also always make it very clear that sex for me is enjoying my gf and I am willing to please her to orgasm even when it’s not working for me
It’s more like how to I get it started when they’re isn’t a lot of want on the other end due to my track record.
We have learned from other material that one way to do is is to focus on your partner. By doing this it gives me a chance for my erection to come back and continue with sex.
Not stoppng the foreplay, and continueing the kissing etc until insertion has happened, keeping the mind constantly occupied and focussed on my partner
Continue any foreplay or thoughts that make you horny and distract you from spectating.
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I try to have sex the way I did when I was younger and more innocent, like fumbling and kissing etc. stripping my back all the weird porn-y stuff that’s grown on top of that, which is all very performative and high-stress. Doesn’t really work lol
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When the issue comes up but I want to keep the flow going, I tend to deflect the issue by focusing entirely on her … this is good because I ensure she isn’t totally dissatisfied with the sexual encounter, however, it’s bad because, when I do this, it’s very rare my needs are met.
I give oral to make myself comfortable and also get me hard
Rubbing the tip while doing it and just consistent stimulation also just breathing out when ur pulling away from sex also getting some condoms while ur alone and doing it smoothly practicing because messing up or dropping it or not tearing it open all the way anything that sets u back even a little bit can completely ruin everything.
In the past I have thought about satisfying my needs and not hers. It has helped more times than not. When I worry about her having a good time I feel as If I put a lot of unneeded pressure on myself.
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Usually I can’t. I usually make up some mechanic excuse - tired, stressed from work, alcohol, whatever - to cover and then we cuddle/talk (obviously not about the real issue) and that’s the end of it.
some times i need to touch myself for a little bit
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Touching other parts of my body, so I don’t focus on my erections as much
possibly nipple play would work for me I think
When I am successful at keeping it going it is because I am able to catch myself going into a bad loop, breath and slow things down and then recenter myself.
On a number of occasions, after losing an erection during intercourse, my wife and I take a little break, sort of set the reset button. We gradually start some foreplay and /or have some oral and then have great intercourse. It hasn’t been a magic formula, but has informed us that it is helpful to take our time and be patient.
I get creative with foreplay and include mutual, inherently relaxing activities like back rubs, back scratches, soft touches, gentle neck bites, and intimate kisses.
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Pleasuring my partner
Dirty talk usually helps me. I guess it distracts me from the inner critic.