I feel like I now understand that porn is not real, that sexual experiences are nothing like it and to not compare my own experiences with it. I feel that stopping porn and getting back in touch with my own body will have a huge impact.
More relieved.
I don’t really know if porn is inhibiting my sex life. But if there’s any doubt that it is I’d much rather manage it. I’ll start by keeping a log which will help determine when I go to watch it
I don’t think porn has been my issue with my ED. Yes i now seek certain genres and types of porn but it hasn’t got out of hand…pardon the pun.
Porn for me is my debuzz at the end of the day and allows me to fantasise about what I like in the bedroom. I will still do the exercise and see what my triggers are.
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I think for myself, using porn to get off between sex, provides some confidence and is healthy. I only use it a few times each month and keeps everything working.
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I’m still not sure if I want to 100% cut out porn because i genuinely enjoy it and love watching it. However I do plan to reduce the amount of times i watch it each month to help get my dopamine levels back to normal
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I can go without watching porn but it helps me reduce stress faster or finish faster
I had got in a habit of sticking it on and coming really fast, as well as going from zero to a hundred really quick. Hoping to use it less often and not in such a routine (the pre leaving for work wank)
I may try no fap or go w ethical
I feel a lot more easy going around porn. I don’t need it to get off and I don’t crave it when bored or lonely like I used to. I watched porn for the first time in about 4 months last night. I tried an ethical site (MLNP) but I couldn’t be bothered to sign up again so I used Porn Hub but actively avoided extreme or degrading content. I had a great wank but still felt myself wanting to close my eyes and use my fantasies/memories of actually experiences - the porn was an aid, not the main stimulus which feels great. I will watch porn occasionally in the future but I will commit to sites like MLNP and avoid commercial sites like Porn Hub
It’s reassuring to know and refreshing that abstaining from porn entirely isn’t the only solution and that there are benefits and good ways to continue watching porn without extreme measures. I will try to be more conscious about my consumption and why I am doing it in the moment to get a better understanding of myself and hopefully reduce the consumption as well
Yeah so I have slowed down my porn watching a lot, I think it’s been weeks/months. Before it was every other day. What caused this is just being busy and bored less. I structure my day quite well literally to the hour. I am not against watching porn and will watch it in the future. It’s more under control.
I believe that it has become a habit for me to rely on porn once I become horny and my partner isn’t there to relieve it. I have been made aware of other options to combat this that I will try out to balance out and prevent ha ritual decision making.
Only masturbate with porn when actually horny. Work more on fantasy building
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Dont use it as a coping mechanism
I often masturbate when i’m feeling stressed, or anxious, or tired, or… and then I frequently use porn. My partner jokes that I like elaborate wanks, with lube and edging for a long time, and it’s true - it makes me feel good about myself and sexually confident, but from everything that’s written here, it looks like I should try to find other outlets to feel the same. I used to have them before I had ED issues, in fact a lot of my identity came from being sexually confident, so this is a really interesting challenge to branch out a wee bit!
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I think I’ll just quit it altogether for a while.
I’ll be mindful if it’s stress or boredom
I like watching action that seems out of reach at this time, girl-girl. I don’t let the unrealisticness of guy-girl get to me, but I love seeing the girls expressing pleasure!
It helps me get to sleep and I don’t think it’s an issue prob stressed about other things and depressed about other things