i dont have a problem getting hard i have a problem with just not lasting long enough
How long we talking? A lot of people have huge misconceptions of what is a long time.
id say like 5 min
5 minutes isn’t bad! I’m less than that most of the time,
but not as instantly I was when I started working on things. Recognizing I’m in my head and relaxing have helped me greatly.
Try some of the meditations, they help get me out of my head and last longer. Also try the kegals and reverse kegals to strengthen those muscles. Good luck!