I’m 22, 6 ft 1 in, and 185 lbs. I’m athletic and go to the gym almost daily. I am not particularly insecure about anything. I’ve tried Sildinifill, Vardanifil, and tadifill, all of which had no effect. I knew my issue was psychological but I was hoping I could use drugs as a bandaid until i figured it out. I was in a terrible relationship starting in highschool and ending in early college. I was young and naive and let this terrible woman destroy my mental state. After her, I was single and avoided all potential romantic/intimate contact with women for years. The idea of being with a woman in that way wasn’t enticing to me anymore. I connected sex with all of the negative emotions associated with my last relationship because she was a sec addict. Fast forward to today today, I met the most wonderful woman. We started dating four months ago and I feel like my issues are going to destroy what we have. I started this app 3 weeks ago and I have seen a bit of progress but nothing even close to being normal. I have only had sex with her 2 times because I was only able to clear my head twice. I go into fight-or-flight around her so often that sometimes I have to excuse myself and find privacy. This especially happens when I try to think about having sex. Needless to say, I can’t get an erection most of the time, almost ever, because any chance I would have with her, I’m having an adrenaline dump. I’m starting to consider therapy, but aside from that, I feel stuck. I’m hoping that someone out there has gone through something similar with success.
You have to be patient with yourself. The first step is to recognize that you’re making progress and focus on that. Sex is not and should never be so important that its absence destroys a relationship. Focus on love and romance and building that deep connection with her. Honestly therapy is a fantastic idea. I think everybody should at some point have a professional they can talk to you about what they’re going through.
It sounds like you’re making progress and you’re on the right track and you just need to give yourself some grace . Find the things about her that bring you comfort and when you feel like you’re going into fight or flight mode work on grounding yourself with those thoughts instead.
I was so in my head that my head would not allow the meds to work.
Through working this app and all its activities and a lot of reading these forums….. I’m now having satisfying sex. I’m getting over my PED but still struggling with deathgrip.
One of the keys for me was being up front and honest with my gf. She’s also 
for helping me with my issues!
If you go to success stories- lots of us have described what’s worked for us… good luck man!!
Ah mate I’m sorry to hear all of that. I had a kind of similar situation, but in my case I’ve always had great sex with past partners and then I met this girl who I just worshipped and I felt quite insignificant in comparison to her (and was going through a huge and stressful career change). And after two weeks of us having sex she turned to me in bed and said “I don’t think our sex is very good” and it kind of destroyed me as I linked my self worth to sex. So a year on I’m still working to figure out what I am tying my self worth to and what I need to hear and feel in order to feel confident. What I’d suggest is understanding what it is that you feel like you need to be reassured of (take the pressure off, I need to rebuild trust with myself and I want you to be part of that, please verbally reassure me, don’t take anything to do with my erections personally and please be kind to me as it’s all in my head) whatever it is, and communicate it with this lovely girl you’ve met so she can help you.
My problem was so tragic, at the beginning with this girl I was so anxious about my career I couldn’t really get hard (which had never happened to me before) then I started taking antidepressants which relaxed me enough ti get hard but then I couldn’t finish so it was just torture feeling like I was broken. A lot of the root of this sex stuff comes from finding ways to heal your brain in the way it thinks. And you gotta help people to help you so you can give them your best love, but it needs to feel safe and super low pressure, go really slow 