Honesty really was the best policy

Morning everyone. I just wanted to share one of my recent experiences with my wife.
Having had issues on and off for several years: predominantly around either not getting hard or suddenly going soft during sex, last year my wife got really frustrated with me when we were on holiday and I couldnā€™t get it up. I didnā€™t blame her though, Iā€™d not really done anything to address the issue. This shook me to the core and I knew I had to do something.
Iā€™ve been using the app on and off for about 6-8 months, itā€™s certainly changed my view on sex as a whole and taught me that itā€™s not just about penetration; itā€™s the whole event. Itā€™s also given me the confidence to just talk about sex with my wife and communicate with her when something isnā€™t working.
Recently we were getting it on and I just couldnā€™t get it up. Iā€™d had a busy day doing things round the house and then Iā€™d been out for a run, my mind was saying ā€˜yesā€™ but my body just didnā€™t have the energy. I just stopped and told her that I couldnā€™t do it and I was probably very tired, but I still wanted to be in that moment with her. So instead I held her and used a toy, which in turn got me going and she did something for me too. I felt just as close to her during and afterwards as I would have done had we had intercourse and she told me afterwards how proud she was of me for speaking up. It felt good knowing how easy it was to communicate this to her.
I guess there are always going to be times when it wonā€™t work, you just need to be comfortable with the person youā€™re with and be able to talk about whatā€™s happening. Itā€™s about the whole experience, not just the orgasm.

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Whatā€™s more, sometimes you only find out what a person is really like when you open up to them. If they love and respect you, theyā€™ll understand and want to help.

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Nice work man!!!
This is a wonderful story. It sounds like you both won and this will be a building block in your relationship!!

Nicely done brother!!

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