So I feel like I have posted this in the past but just looking for some input again so if I repeat myself I apologize. Overcame my issues altogether and was having amazing sex with my wife a month or so no issue. She went in for surgery for a reduction of a tummy tuck because she lost 100 pounds so obviously we were not active for a couple of months. Once she was healed back up got into it and I was having no issue at all . Randomly lost an erection when we went to have sex but I was getting sick with a fever so pretty sure that was the root source. This spiraled me right back into my issue. I was 100% off of pills but now I am back to using them . If I take 2 Viagra I have zero issue and we have amazing sex . But the couple of times that I have tried it without it has been a failure again. Just really frustrating because I felt so much victory and now even though I’m very thankful that we can have good sex with I know that I don’t need them. Anybody else deal with any similar situation?? I know I can beat this thing again as I did it’s just crazy how it comes back to haunt me.
you said it yourself, you spiraled and that’s okay. focus on the fact that you’ve already beaten it before. that’s awesome—let it motivate you. you did it once so you can absolutely do it again. and now you’re knowledgeable about the tools that are at your disposal.
if you weren’t sexually active for a few months, your sex drive might’ve naturally lowered. and if you were getting sick, that absolutely affected you. a few unsuccessful attempts don’t mean that you’re a failure. you’re not—at all. you were already victorious before.
your frustration and feelings about your issues haunting you are valid. try re-framing your thinking. it’s not so much that your issues are haunting you—it’s more like a relapse of sorts. relapses are normal, and part of the process. what’s important is not letting yourself spiral further & getting back to doing the work.
Makes sense once I seemed to overcome my issue I totally quit the app and exercises . Now that I’m struggling again I am revisiting everything. I definitely need to get back into doing the work cause obviously it was a huge piece to my success.
Curious - you said you are up to 2 Viagra.
What dosages… too much is not good.
There are 20 mg a piece. The max I am prescribed is five which would be 100 mg. The most I’ve ever taken was four . I wined myself down to a half of one then to nothing. Was good for a couple of months and then relapsed after one failed attempt.
exactly. stay disciplined and get back into the habit. remember to be patient and don’t put too much pressure on yourself, either. you’ve got this!