TLDR:
Stop watching porn,
Use the stop start technique
Buy a realistic toy
Exercise, yoga, and journaling
For me, porn use and constant overstimulation for decades was definitely was definitely the cause of my PE. Here’s what’s been helping me.
1st: I’m currently 41 days w/o porn, and it helped me shift in so many mental and physical ways. Waking up nutting, nutting before going to sleep, nutting as soon as I got home from work or school almost every single day without restraint, and never trying to hold back, never flexing a pc muscle or trying to see how long I could go. If this is you, STOP IT!! Regardless of what they say about porn not being addictive, and it not causing PE, it’s definitely the porn, leave it alone!
2nd: I started using the start-stop technique and pacing myself combined with the box breath technique. You have to stay somewhere between 6 and 8, stop before you know you’re gonna cum. When you can successfully do that, ramp it up to something more realistic. Toy masturbators are great for this.
3rd: If you can spare an extra $60.00-$100.00, buy a realistic masturbator. Forget the mental stigmas or embarrassment about buying them, they ship completely discrete (read the reviews before buying). You’re not buying it to try to replace your partner, or to be the weirdo ass consensual issues guy who buys them cause “she doesn’t say no”, you’re buying it because you’re doing the work to fix a common sexual dysfunction, and that’s a great thing. It was hard and embarrassing for me to buy it, but I remembered, women have been enjoying everything from human, to roses, to horse, to alien octopus tentacles and back that are both larger and wider than humanly possible in some instances, so wtf right? Amazon, aliex press, temu, etc. has them for cheap and in different sizes. The more it feels like the real thing the better. I bought the realistic ass w/ lockable luggage suitcase from kingdemer, cause it’s secure and private, but it’s NOT necessary. I feel like I overpaid after seeing the same ones on Temu for $50.00-60.00. If you have a partner, have the hard convo and let them know why you’re buying it, just find a box or a good way to hide it from little ones if you have them.
4th: this one is most important… do whatever you can to rid your mind and body of stress and tension. If you go into your sessions with tension, it all ads up to bad performance, performance anxiety, and can leave you feeling worse if you under perform. Exercise is great for releasing sexual tension and frustration in general. Before each session I do yoga asanas to calm my mind completely. Actionable journaling has been the best for my mental health. Journaling has brought me results I haven’t received from my therapist. Instead of just venting (and it’s okay if you need to just vent), I journal my cognitive thoughts behind why I feel the emotion I feel. I often look back at my thoughts to see if repeating the same habits has changed my outlook and how I feel so that I can break the mental loops if/when I need to.
Practicing gratitude is vital. Journal every day about the things you can be grateful for, and for every small step of progress. Every small step can ad up to your victory and you NEED to honor your wins no matter the size. Be grateful for them.
I also keep a daily porn journal that keeps me balanced on my progress. Every time I have a craving to watch, I journal what triggered it (situationally, audio-visually, environmentally, a thought about a video I watched previously, a woman with similar resemblance, etc.), and why I have an attachment to it to debunk it so that I can make adjustments… it works, trust me.
This is just what has been working for me, and what I’ve tried. Mojo has been a great aid in helping me, but I urge you to do and use everything you can to better yourself.