What do you guys think is too small
There’s no such thing as too small. It’s about how you use it. There’s a common misconception that bigger is better but you’d be surprised that most women actually find bigger more uncomfortable and enjoy it less
For the vast majority of people, it only matters at the extremes (massive or tiny) If you are anywhere in the medically normal range, it only matters as much as you let it ruin your confidence.
Some people are size queens and they usually make themselves known by immediately asking about your size. Don’t engage with people like that.
I wish I knew the answer, clearly you have some issues with it bothering you. You might need help getting past that. You are far from alone. I’m still working on my own insecurities in that regard even though I know I’m average. It has caused me a lot of missed opportunities. Get help so you don’t deny yourself chances.