I struggled since my first sexual encounter when I was 18. I was absolutely head over heels for her and wanted it to work out sexually. We were both ready for it but I just couldn’t get it up. I was definitely nervous for it and was definitely not getting into the mood. The moment passed, clothes back on, and then i get an erection… Things like this have happened ever since. In the one longer term relationship i had, things improved a little as i got more comfortable. She was quite experienced and had a high sex drive, which did make me anxious feeling like i needed to perform for her, but i also gained some confidence from her being positive and complimentary about other parts of the sex (foreplay etc.). I could usually have sex, but i did find myself thinking about it and it would occasionally get soft, particularly if we tried something new.
I am dealing with psychological ED since I started my current Relationship for about 2 weeks now.
When we had sex for the first time I was heavily focused on her pleasure. When It came to the real intercourse, I experienced ED for the first time. Out of 5 sexual intercourses so far ive had 2 successfull Erections until the end. But the fear and anxiety of not being able to hold an erection is leading to a vicious cycle. Just the thought of sex is now linked to the negative mindset.
I am looking forward to help myself and feel better. Not for anyone else but for me and me only.
I’m 19 and am have trouble finishing and always have a semi I don’t lose an erection but it doesn’t stay firm, I have no issues when masturbating.
I always get anxious, I get excited with my partner, get it up then as soon as we’re having sex I’m thinking how long can I keep ot up for - I really think it’s starting to damage my relationship and I’ve realised I’m watching ALOT more porn than I used to to escape it and convince myself it’s working fine
I do. Often I catch myself in thoughts that aren’t related to the moment. Then when I try to refocus myself in the moment I find myself getting nervous that I may have lost hardness along the way. From there I start sweating really badly and before long I’ve lost the erection. Sometimes I can get it back but other times I remain trapped in my head.
I don’t really get anxious, but whenever I penetrate the erection goes away rather quickly.
Yes almost every time
After my divorce, I started to be anxious during sex. I’m worried about performance and rejection due to poor performance.
I overthink every possible scenario where id fail to get it up and keep it up and no matter what, it always ends up happening even when i try to re assure myself its just anxiety and that i will be fine, it gives me a negative gut feeling everytime i think about sex
It’s rough. Even with partners who I know want to be with me, and aren’t dependant on PIV, I have so much emotion wrapped up in thinking about my erection. I’ve almost written off getting off due to the anxiety.
Yeah absolutely, I get anxious a while before actually. I used to never have this problem and then at the age of 19 I was a freshman in college and hooked up with a girl that I wasn’t all that attracted to. I struggled to get it up, although I brute force worked it up in the end. Ever since that, every new partner is a battle, and I can only get it up once I’m comfortable. It’s been plaguing my mind for way too long and honestly has been ruining sex for me, so I want to fix it rather than sitting around. It was never an issue when I had a girlfriend in college, but we broke up about a year ago, and it has been back ever since.
When I engage I’m constantly thinking ‘please stay up’ causing me to get anxious
I get hard and aroused. And the second my partner touches my penis, the thought that I won’t be able to keep it up, makes me lose it. I feel I get into my own head and this is what messes me up.
I feel less, I feel that my partner might think of me. Or that I am pathetic or unable to satisfy.
Yes, all my life, when I was younger it would happen the 1st time I had a new partner but then go away, then after a long sexless period in a marriage it became more common as I thought I wasn’t satisfying her was the cause of the lack of sex meant that whenever we did have sex I would feel tremendous pressure
Since my first sexual experiences in high school, I have trouble getting it hard. It happens first during forepay, but I can overcome it by being more confident in my partner. Nonetheless, my first girlfriend didn’t really understand the thing, and we had bad communication. Then, this fear of judgment really affects me, even with dates that are really comprehensive and supporting.
Usually nowadays, during foreplays I feel quite confident and there is no problem to do it. But when it comes to sex, my penis is getting soft almost immediately, and after it is almost impossible to get it hard again, even during foreplays.
I face anxiety and some depression issues, however when I feel anxious about sex the whole situation seems helplessly.
Doubts and questions start to pop in the mind, I try to get rid of them and focus on the moment but the more I try the worse it’s becomes.
Then the real “fear” or “numbness” thing kicks in and when I realize I have so long lost my erection and all my desire and arousal, the only thoughts that remains in me is the need to run away from there.
I worry I’m going to lose my erection before myself or my wife has climaxed
No, not so much
I’ve struggled with performance issues most of my life. When I didn’t things were great which only made it that much worse when things didn’t work out. I’ve been married for over 10 years now and I’ve had to constantly deal with the ups and downs and it affects my relationship. She questions if I’m not into her or something she is doing wrong or maybe I want someone else. It’s a struggle.