So basically ive trained my mind to cum she she cums. If I think about having sex with the gf and I imagine her having an orgasm I lose all arousal, just like ive cum in real life.
I think this is because when I used to watch porn as a 20 year old I would wank and cum to the porn stars “orgasm”
Even my gf saying “im gonna cum” makes me cum instantly.
Has anyone had this or managed to retrain their brain?
Thanks
No. Not now. I used to able to do that too with a partner but now in my late 50s I struggle to cum at all with a partner let alone inside her.
I’m with you.
I have a deathgrip and haven’t finished anywhere but my hand in years.
Divorced and with a wonderful woman now. We’re both early 50s. She’s helping with my PED and death grip as well. Super encouraging and enthusiastic!
I slowed way down on solo and porn. Has helped, but still have to finish myself so far…
Pretty much yes.
One of the things I’m here to learn is to unlearn that behavior.
I’m at the other end of that extreme. I’m not sure which one I would prefer.
Yeah I’d prefer to cum. It’s the closure of the process.
Be careful with this - for me it’s a bad habit that I’m working to break. At the beginning it was healthy and natural. Her cumming was a huge turn on that pushed me over the edge, and vice versa for her. But over time it led to both of us taking the role of observing/waiting rather than just feeling the moment. A few years ago I worried about cumming too early. Now I have the opposite problem and worry if I’ll be able to at all.
That may not be an issue for everyone, but something to look out for.
Have you thought about making her cum with toys and your hands / mouth first a few times and for her last orgasm she’s vocal and you nut there’s no pressure ?
Oddly I have found the same thing to be true