Been dating this girl for a month. Found her totally attractive and thought we meshed better than anyone else I’ve been with. Today she broke up with me because we haven’t been able to have sex and have an intimate connection. I told her I’m working on it and it’s getting better but she says she also felt affected by it and it was causing her anxiety and stress. I told her I understood and felt like what I was doing was really helping and we could have sex soon. Still, she just felt it was better we broke up. And it’s like damn, what am I supposed to feel now? I already got erection issues due to pressure and stress and now I just got broken up with because of my problems. Feels like that’s only making it worse for me and I honestly don’t know what to do I feel pretty helpless and down bad rn. Don’t really have any direction with this post, kinda just wanted to vent and say what was on my mind.
Hey there. First of all, I’m really sorry to read this. I can understand how difficult this must be for you I experienced something similar a few years ago. The girl I was dating ended things with me even though I was trying to seek help with my erection issues.
What I can tell you is this: if she broke up with you whilst you were working on these issues, she simply wasn’t the one for you. Probably doesn’t mean much to you now but it’s the truth. It hurts now and you may still feel bad tomorrow, but in time I think you’ll realise that when you meet the right girl, she’ll understand you well enough to give you the mental and emotional support to help you through this. Sex is just one part of a relationship. It doesn’t have to happen every day and she’ll be patient enough and understanding enough that you’ll realise she’s truly special and worth all your time and energy.
Just sounds to me like this girl probably wasn’t that girl. You may also find now that once you get some downtime and after a bit of a reflection, you’ll be able to work on your issues without the pressure of a partner in your life whom you may subconsciously feel you may feel you always need to please.
It’ll get better my friend 
. Trust me. Keep the faith, keep your chin up, remind yourself that your issues are temporary NOT permanent and that the right girl will stand by you.
Sending virtual support!
Thank you for taking the time to write your response. This made me feel a lot better, I appreciate you
Hey like the other guy said, she wasnt the one. Ive met plenty girls rhat were very understanding. Personally, i would find it very unnatractive if a woman judged me based on my sexual performance. Its not fair. Women know this. The girl u were dating is shallow and she just wanted some excitement in her life. Unfortunately life isnt a movie and not everything is perfect but the beauty of being in love is that things like this are silly and not a big deal in relationships because thats not what a relationship is based on. Many girls get in relationships for excitement and they mistake it for real feelings (women will say they love you if youre funny and charming and good in bed but then initial excitement fades and they leave). Truth is that if you didnt have erection issues that girl wouldve stayed for 6 months or so and broke your heart then. You dodged a bullet. Real attraction comes from other things and to be fair i find that a good because now you know for a fact she wasnt worth your time. The right woman will be so hot for you thay she will be satisfied from you simply touching her or oral, she will make you feel safe and comfortable and boom one day youbwill feel so good about your relationship with her that your issues will go away. You need to love yourself man, be confident and dont look down on yourself. Just because u cant get hard dowsnt mean youre pathethic or not worthy of love.
Thanks man. I appreciate you taking the time to write this response
It gets better man!!
I lost a 23 yr marriage in part to PED!!
I met an absolutely wonderful lady my age -53- that is 
behind me and actively helping me through my PED & Deathgrip issues!
Good luck man!!
Glad to hear you’re doing better man! Thanks for the response