I don’t want to have any relationship with my sister, but whenever I see her in a swimsuit 
…. I need to know if it’s okay to think she’s hot or not from a guy.
It’s like she has a beautiful body shape and face and it’s really sexy especially in a swimsuit
Oh, come on, bro… you are her brother. Actually, you should protect her from others. Tell her not to show herself to you in the swimsuit.
Don’t be hard on yourself or shame yourself for your thoughts and feelings. It’s safe to move through this and let it go of the self judgment. However I would preface you not entertaining in the attraction internally within yourself. You deserve internal peace so give it to yourself.
Like the other person said, your also her brother. You can help protect her from other guys.
Other people won’t want to admit this kind of stuff if it comes up around family members or cousins. So your brave in being honest here while trying to reconcile this.
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Okay, I protect her from other guys, it’s not like I get horny for her or anything, she’s just like really pretty and I know I probably shouldn’t think that.
Listen mate it’s natural to appreciate beauty we all do. As long as you don’t act on it or obsess about her. Think of it as appreciation rather than attraction. Like you can see a well muscled guy and appreciate perfect male form. Or a perfect painting !!!
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I don’t think shaming him is a very helpful response here. I’d venture to guess that a large portion of us (if not most of us) have issues rooted in shame, so it’s really saddening to see it as a response here.
Further, it is NOT the sister’s responsibility to dress down to appease OP’s reaction. No way, no how. If anyone can’t handle what another person wears, the onus is on the person with the problem to remove themself from the scenario or otherwise solve their issue - NOT to expect the person going about their own business to change outfits.
As for OP, how would you talk about it if a friend confided the same to you? Kindly? Saying comforting, reassuring things? Try to turn some of that grace toward yourself. Kindly tell yourself something like “alright, that thought has happened, but it doesn’t serve me to dwell on it, let’s do some breath exercises and let the thought pass”
Keep an eye on how you talk to yourself. Are you being your best friend or your bully?
Okay, thanks bro. That makes perfect sence
Alright, thanks. That makes a lot of sence