About a year and half back I tried to hook up with a girl after getting out of a long relationship. I never had this issue before even had been addicted to porn for a while but, it finally got me. I couldn’t get all the way hard and even though there was some penetration, I felt my negative thoughts and anxiety holding me back from achieving a full erection. So I decided to start taking blew chews to help and had did that for a while since. Well I’ve recently reconnected with someone whom i dated a while back and things are going very well . I’ve found myself hyper focused on when the time comes for us to hook up, I won’t be able to get completely hard. I want to kick using blue chews as I’m so young and really think my issue retains to more anxiety, but now im anxious I won’t be able to get hard without them, This has been causing me so much anxiety in itself I’m struggling with my libido right now. I still wake up in the mornings hard and can get aroused when watching porn or without. But I was wondering if kicking porn/ masterbation completely would help me recently until it’s time to go in the real situation (even if I don’t last too long) could anyone else share their experiences? Similar or not? Really need some guidance right now for my mental health.
I’m pretty sure my advice will be working. Stop masturbating for a week. Simple as that. And for the other issue regarding fear of cuming to soon. Most women care more about head, orgasm and all of the little things and less about penetrative sex. Most likely you will not cum earlier than wanted and even if you do, just tell her that was your compliment to her, she will remember it as something hot. Or when was the last time you made a girl cum in seconds and then she was too sensitive so she gave you head instead and after you were like nah this girl sucks her vagina only lasted 3 seconds. It wont happen, you will think about it being hot. Unless she gets all awkward, kills the vibe and leaves you unfinished. Will be the other way around too. So dont worry about lasting when not masturbating for a while. Just do it and reconnect with your body and sexuality and learn what makes you horny in real life. Good luck bro
Thank you so much man, you have no idea how much this comment helped me. Been anxious daily because of this!
I agree. I’d quit porn and solo. It’s helped me a bit.
Also- if you do lose it- relax. Don’t panic. Pull out, spit in your hand and start rubbing your dick on her clit. She’ll love it. Focus on how hot she looks with her legs in the air for you. Kiss her all over her legs while rubbing yourself on her… Just don’t freak out. You got this!!
Thank you so much man!