ADHD have a part to play?

💭 Mental health
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Hey guys,

I was wondering if any of you have ADHD. And if so, had it negatively affected your sex lives??

I always find no matter how much mindfulness or meditation exercises I do, I end up having a bunch of thoughts anyway once it comes to sex. Not all of them negative, I just struggle to be in the moment and feel all the sensations I should be feeling I suppose.

I’ve never taken ADHD medication (only got diagnosed 2 months ago) but have seriously been considering it recently. Has ADHD medication improved any of you guys’ sex lives??

Would love to know

Thanks so much!

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I have adhd and I think it has definitely contributed to my issues. For me it’s the fact there are so many different options like breath control, body scanning etc that I’ll try and just enjoy the moment with my wife and by the time I remember to do any of those things my heart rate is through the roof and I’m a nervous wreck. We have 2 kids so sex isn’t that often at this stage of life. When I know it’s supposed to happen that night, I will find myself thinking about all day and mapping out every single step, positions, etc. instead of just letting the moment happen naturally. I think that’s related to our hyper focus. I am also a firm believer that the RSD we have leads to a lot of the anxiety. Anytime I’ve gone limp. My wife gets over it in five minutes, and even tells me to move on and everything is fine. Yet I’m still terrified of it happening again even though it’s been proven to me that if it happens, everything will be alright

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I also just got diagnosed with ADHD… at 60 yrs old. I do a lot of meditation which does help, but not in the moment. My head just floods with all kinds of stuff, and yes, like you, not always negative, but definitely not present in the moment. I am doing bloodwork now to see what meds may be available to me and doing the research on all the meds to choose one with the least amount of sexual function side effects.

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I have adhd and in my early mid 20s. Experience the same thing. When in these situations dopamine is released which acts as a natural medication, meaning we turn into our ‘non ADHD’ self, which is like taking adhd meds (ie focussing not on sex). I think this is the issue. Still haven’t solved it.

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If you say dopamine takes into effect , does takinng cocain a day or 2 before having sex influence it? Because you are depleted of dopamine