I came within 10 seconds the other day I’m starting to feel like she’s not enjoying the sex
I’ve had that issue too. We’ve recently had to switch back to condoms after years of unprotected sex, and I’m circumcised and just not very sensitive anymore. I almost never orgasm now with a condom on. I had been trying to reframe it as a superpower (she gets all the fun she wants) but the problem is it now makes me anxious, so sometimes I can’t get hard at all. Which is why I’m here…
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YES. I wish it wasn’t so visible! It feels like a billboard saying I DON’T FANCY YOU ANYMORE. Women don’t have that problem… at least it’s not outwardly visible.
Those memories can really hurt, right? I have the same. What was the happiest time of my life, and then the problems happened and I thought I was going to lose the love of my life… But we beat it and we got married and we still are… Now the ED problem has come back, and the flashbacks are horrible… But I know we beat it before. Good luck!
I haven’t had sex for so long with my partner as I haven’t been able to successfully stay hard for a long time. I worry it’s going to happen every time now and sex will become non existent in our relationship.
I relate to this very strongly
sometimes when i watch porn i worry that it will effect my sciolti to get an erection in sex.
porn turns me on and fuels my fantasy so i feeel more sexual
watching poem doesn’t effect my ability to get an erection
i can relax and focus on being with my partner and feeling good
My thought is that I’ll never be able to have good sex. I don’t know this is true and if I keep working I’m sure I’ll be able to.
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When negative feelings surface about someone I might not be fond of, I will say to myself what’s my next thought.
It just feels like Im never going to overcome this inability to enjoy sex
Ive always enjoyed sex before this and never had these negative thoughts so if i can get rid of them it will fix itself
I think that penetrative sex is something I should be able to do so when it doesn’t work I feel embarrassed.
I know putting pressure on myself for it to work makes it worse, therefore I should focus on my feelings and not the negative thought about “I have to be able to”. It does not quantify my worth
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Negative thoughts, is just me having an underlying fear of something. Writing things down and having realistic and positive thoughts helps
My negative thought is always the same in these moments, “it’s not going to work” followed afterwards by “I’ve wasted her time again”. Will be nice to tackle those thoughts
I’m gonna cum so fast and my partner will be disappointed
i worry that i won’t able to stay hard and have sex and my penis will just go soft
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I won’t stay hard and I won’t orgasm
I’m going to lose my erection during sex and she’ll be disappointed
We’re gonna start to get intimate, but I’ll get no cooperation from down below
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Failed to get hard through kissing and touching