Whatever your relationship status, how do you feel about discussing your erection issues with a partner?

I’ve actually been shockingly successful with this new girl. Still not a super enjoyable experience but it worked. Except for one time. I was able to be patient and we got things going again. Not sure if I’ll even bring it up unless it happens again

I was nervous at first. It can be a heavy topic and I didn’t want to cause any doubt in my attraction or desire for my wife. But, our desire to have a full life together, including an intimate, fulfilling Sex Life, is worth navigating the nerves and talking about it. It also brought us on the same page. Not that any of it is her problem or her fault (AT ALL), but she can help and I don’t have to fight it or work through it alone.

I has been a few months since we have talked about it and it has been great. The pressure is off. And “good enough is fun enough”

It has been a difficult conversation. But takes it well and works with me on it.

I feel more open about it now - before we were kind of ignoring it and then we found ourselves getting under the influence of something and then having sex and essentially ignoring the issue.

Perfectly comfortable. We’re longtime and long term partners - and real partners at that. This course combined with her willingness to help has been a huge shift in my sexual life.

Been married for 40 years so there’s no issues discussing it. I did learn in this lesson that the “you” statement doesn’t work. I actually had it happen this morning when I told her I lost my erection last night because you didn’t seem very excited and my mind started to make my inner critic tell me I wasn’t doing it for you. She got offended right away and said don’t blame me. So I had to re phrase it and explain that it’s not her fault. It just happens that sometimes one of us isn’t as excited.

I feel as comfortable as I’ll probably get. When the time comes my partner will bring it and I have hardly any issues talking about it but I will not bring it up.

I already have ! and it didint go bad! it felt like a huge weight of my shoulders. She also understood and said it was fine. That we could keep trying.
If you really like the person and are planning on taking the next step this is the way to go. One night stands might be tricky though.

I’m casually dating and don’t want to bring it up right away for fear it will make me more nervous and potentially make thins worse. But by not taking about it I worry it will happen and the other person will judge me or take it personally.

Im worried that if I bro g it up before our first sexual encounter then it will be in my head and actually cause ED.

It’s difficult to bring up but I know from experience it is much worse to not mention it and have it come up when you’re trying to have sex.

It can be difficult not having a long term situation, it can feel kind of uncomfortable to discuss with someone you don’t see much or for few times. I think sexual suicide was the term used in one the videos and there’s definitely anxiety there about that happening being open about this stuff in a short term relationships

Women are often very understanding once they realise it’s not because of them. Try it

It’s always been a conversation I have with them AFTER I have erection issues. I never considered bringing it up beforehand. It’s kind of genious, actually.

Great she is fully committed to making me right again!

Sucks. Has to be done - and she is understanding- but still sucks.

Happy to do so as I trust her

I like the i statements approach, and being able to own when I struggle to get elections (and therefore, also own when I don’t struggle!). I like that I can suggest other ideas to keep the sexy going.

I find it difficult, but it seems that it’s important to try

Scared to loose them. I think I am holding them back